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Why do people feel compelled to make noise or conversation during peaceful silences? |
other than small children and teenagers without manners - why is it that people feel like they have to make speak, make noises or otherwise force their presence on others in peaceful, silent situations, like in the great outdoors, in libraries or bookstores, in art galleries... case-in-point: sitting in the sauna at the gym...it's hot and cedar-scented, there are 3 of us communing peacefully, blissfully with our sweat. in comes person #4, she plops (yes there was an audible noise) her butt down and proceeds to grunt and moan with (i assume) pleasure. exchanging glances with the others, we turn away from her, trying to recapture the ambience, whereupon she starts this cheery little chatter "hi, it's hot in here, i'm from...." what is up with that???? Best described in a quote from the movie Pulp Fiction. MIA Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullsh*t in order to be comfortable? VINCENT I don't know. MIA That's when you know you found somebody special. When you can just shut the f*ck up for a minute, and comfortably share silence. It's because these people are uncomfortable & trying to fill the air with mindless chatter to mask the fact that they are uncomfortable. They're not comfortable with who they are. I think it's also a sign of insecurity....when people don't know how to be by themselves, or are scared to be. I know, hate that. It's a pet peeve of mine. I have a theory... people secretly know that we come from and eventually return to silence. I would go further to say that silence, the substrate of all sound, is our true identity. It's what we all have in common. The various charades and human dramas that we engage in to distract ourselves from our immanent return to silence make us comfortable. When confronted with silence, especially in social interaction or during a performance, it is uncomfortable because it reminds us of what we are trying desperately to ignore. Some people feel the need to talk to relax tension or awkwardness in a situation as for the annoying noises that just means plain rudeness and disrgard for others.Maybe next time you could tell her to quiet down or if that doesnt work (I know its rude but deseprate times cause for desperate measures) you all give her the silent treatment when she comes in just stop talking and if she trys to talk just give a nod of your head and leave it like that or play the close your eyes and ignore card. I think it has to do with people's insecurities in some cases. I think when a room or a place falls silent, they get nervous because they don't know what to do. Also, people get offended when you stay silent because they feel like they are not interesting enough for you. At least that's from my experience. So her butt made an audible sound when it landed, huh? I bet you remember that noise as much as the chatter. lmao You could always say to her that you are all relaxing and that you are being quiet..or just nod and don't talk to her.... |
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