heal the broken heart?
p/s : Yahoo! think this Q should be under Arts & Humanities > Visual Arts > Photography.. duuuh! I believe scietists could search for 1,000 years and never find an answer.
They say 'time heals all wounds', which has a bit of truth to it, but not quite -- it just makes you think of them less often.
I don't know the answer, but I can tell you one thing that is NOT the best thing to do --
that's go right out lookin' for someone to replace him/her.
That IS were I say take some time. And if someone's just right there waiting and wanting to be the replacement, explain to them that if there's supposed to be something between the two of you, then please give you some time -- he would not want to end up being your "rebound". It ruins what might have been great at a little later time.
Now, notice, I did not say "Do not go out", because that could be helpful.
Repeating here, but, like I said, I don't know an answer, but I guess the best I can do is recommend what NOT to do:
*don't go get drunk or stoned because of it (if you must get drunk, [assuming you're of age] do it once, with close friends, not in public)
*don't do things to "get even", or get revenge -- you're better than that
*don't pick up somebody on the rebound just to help you "make it through" -- that's not fair to him, or to you
*don't start pickin' yourself to pieces trying to figure out "what's wrong with me?" (HEY! Maybe it's something wrong with HIM, not you! HE is the loser here!)
*don't hang around singin' the old "woe is me" tune -- your friends really do care about you, but they get tired if you're always sitting on the pity potty
A few "do's":
*do -- pitch yourself one good hissy fit (in private)
*do -- wear a smile, even if you don't feel it -- it really does make a difference
*do -- get specific and organized and PLAN fun things for you to do, like almost every day, and stick to it
*do -- go to the gym -- work out some of those feelings (besides, wouldn't it be neat for him to do a double take at your toned, tighter ... ah, muscles the next time he sees you?)
*do -- something to help the less fortunate -- volunteer at a soup kitchen, women's shelter, a hospice (this one really does help -- I know it sounds cliche', but there are so many people who would trade problems with you in a heart beat -- it may not make your pain less, but it gives you a look at a bigger picture)
*do -- a make-over -- & I'm talkin' more than just make-up here. Try some new positive type clothes styles. Rethink your hairstyle. But, move yourself UP in these areas, not downward. Look like a winner.
*do --KNOW that no matter what he may have said or done to you, NO ONE can, or has the ability to make you "less", unless you give them permission (and don't do it to yourself, either)
. Time is the best way. It will get better as time goes on. Good luck darlin... laughing gas spend time with friends and have fun. have more time to yourself... some introspection.... while your at it do some spas, workout, feel good about yourself Duct tape fixes everything!
Ok, more seriously, keep busy so that you have less time to think about it. Strange.... Arts ands humanities must have been the last place you visited or posted.
should be in household repairs.
how to heal the broken heart- get involved with a volunteer organization involving either old people or animals.
it is the super glue of humanity Don't be afraid to feel your grief. You weren't afraid to fall in love, so don't be afraid to fall out of it. Finding a match is so hard, and they can still break your heart even after years of loyalty. Enjoy whatever part was good about the relationship and move on without regrets. I have found that after the saddness fades, I don't regret anything that I have done or lost. Life is not scripted. |
