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What is the polite way to tell your future mother-in-law off? |
My best friends mother in law is completely taking over her wedding planning. She invited a bunch of HER friends to the rehearsal dinner (that my friend doesn鈥檛 even know). She told the musicians to be there on Sunday, when she knew the rehearsal was Saturday. She wants to pick the music they play. She changed the main cake after my friend had already picked it, picked the photographer (when she knew my friend didnt want one), changed the minister to someone who鈥檚 not even licensed in Ohio,and she cries to her son (my friends fiance) when everything doesn鈥檛 go her way. The wedding is 3 weeks from Sunday. WHAT SHOLD MY FRIEND DO? She also bought my friend some very tacky and inapproiate lingerie for her bridal shower in which all of her friends, family and church memebers were present for. Most people don't understand subtle. I'd start with "Listen, be'atch." Then I'd get nasty. That ought to get the point across. not to be polite just do it Gee...she sounds like the proverbial bad mother-in-law. Her son, your friend's fiance, should put his foot DOWN, now and not later. How dare she stick her nose so far into your friend's affairs? If her son does not do something now, this problem will only escalate. dont know yet , still trying to figure that one out when you do let me know lol im married for 10 years now. She's not married yet, right? She needs to GET OUT NOW! This will never change, if she thinks this is the end of her mother-in-law trying to take over, she's wrong. GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT! NOW! LIFE WITH THIS PERSON WILL ONLY BRING MISERY AND PAIN!!!!!!!!!! Am I stating this strongly enough? GET OUT! RUN! RUN FAST, RUN FAR!!!!!!!!!! I don't think it's a very wise idea to tell a future mother-in-law off. If his mother is paying for any of the services for the wedding, I feel she has every right to change them, but certainly should consult with your friend to make sure it's ok. It appears as though the mother-in-law is not liking the fact that her son is marrying this woman, but she needs to just suck it up and deal with it. What good would it do to tell of the future mother-in-law? It can only make things worse, and your friend is marrying into the family so she will be dealing with this woman for the rest of her life. Your friend needs to just suck it up, or be an adult about it, sit down and talk to the mother and tell her how this is affecting her. If she approaches her in a hostile manner, it will never end up good. I have a HORRIBLE mother in law, and trust me, this will more than likely be the way things go from now on. My mother in law pulled pretty much all of the same stuff at my wedding, and much much worse. Just explain to her, or better yet, have her son explain to her that it is in fact NOT her wedding. However, if the mother in law is the one paying for these things you don't really get too much of a vote. Stop including her in things such as guest list planning and cake buying, if she isn't around when these things are going on there's less of a chance she can meddle in them. Other than that, just ignore her. Don't get nasty or stoop to her level though. I have applied the "kill them with kindness" method. Even though it hasn't changed her behavior it makes me look better, and it also gives me the satisfaction of knowing that she can't turn me into someone I'm not. I know that I conduct myself respectfully, regardless of how she chooses to behave. |
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