How do I setup my lighting kit to sync with my digital camera?

I just bought a strobe and softbox kit, how do I get it to sync with my Canon EOS digital rebel xt? I will be taking photos at a club tomorrow night and will be taking pictures. I will need the continuous light on from the softbox and I tested it this morning - but I am having trouble adjusting my camera settings and the strobe settings. How do I do it? I also purchased a hot shoe safe sync from WEIN that supposedly works with my camera to put on the hot shoe and sync with the PC cord that goes with the strobe. It seems to only work when I use my other external flash though (canon speedlite 430) because that flash triggers the strobes. I dont even know if the WEIN hot shoe sync works.

1) Set the strobe where it lights the subject as you desire. Strobe should be set to trigger with twe cable, not with the cell, because it will fire to ANY flash, not only yours.

2) Check strobe exposure AND also ambient light exposure, decide about strobe and ambient balance (which is going to be used as fill, which as main or effect light)
Take on consideration if your subject moves to/from strobe and take exposure measures on several points, take notes about this.

3) Set your camera to manual and adjust speed and aperture

4) Put the Wein safe sync on your camera and connect to the strobe. The Wein sure sync asures that trigger voltage is less than 5 volts. It should work with the hot shoe

5) Test camera-strobe connection

6) Test exposure

7) Shoot. use your notes to adjust aperture if subject moves away or gets near to strobe. Do this only if you can not check exposure again.

get some slave strobes

Get or make a camera to light kit adapter cord.

in your camera settings is there a turn off of camera flash i have a nikon 8700 and i have that pro too but i had to turn off flash but flash has to to be in up position to work , contact me at myeyeonphotography.com if i can help more..