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Wedding Dilemma .. Need some insight & advise!? |
The groom asked my husband 2 B in his wedding, then 2 weeks later the bride asked me if my 2 sons could B in their wedding. We agreed, but recently were advised tux rentals 4 ea R $170! $510 cost out of pocket which is pathedic. Wedding is in 2 weeks. I advised her that the cost was astronomical, so they R paying 4 the children's tux's. Anyway, there R a total of 22 people in this wedding. They R getting married @ a park, 45 minutes away, the ceremony is 2 B outside under a tree, no seating for guests, everyone is 2 stand & watch - have to pay a $5 park fee just to enter the park too. I'm also the photographer 4 the wedding. The bride informs me yesterday, that they are not sure now if they are going to have a reception because the hall they were having the reception @ is now upping the price of the catering because the caterer's changed. I think this is quite rude to have your wedding party shell out $$ for a 10 min ceremony outside & no reception. What would U do? Please adv. So, she's having 260 people come to a wedding and not providing a single thing for them? Not a chair, a drink or a morsel of food because she thinks treating her guests properly is a waste of money? I would give them a wedding card, and that's it. Decline the b-ette party invite and someone needs to tell the couple that this isn't right. I notice she doesn't think the guests giving her gifts is a waste of THEIR money...I'd be really mad if I were a "guest" at a wedding like that--because I'm a human being and deserve to be treated better than cattle who are an inconvenience. if i wanted to keep the friendship i would just do it, and learn from it. next time just say no to being in a wedding party. if i weren't concerned about keeping the friendship then i would bow out gracefully as possible. i think you are stuck girl and just need to do it and have it over with. id drop out of the whole thing . u dont really want to know these people do you? I'd tell him and if I were you, I'd get the phone ringing and tell all of the people I know that are going to be in or attending the wedding all of the stuff that you have found out and tell them to pass it on. If more people knew how shallow this girl is, they might not be willing to attend either. That or they would tell her to get her act together and grow up!! I had my wedding planned and payed for in two weeks, including the tuxes and the dress for my bridesmaid and maid of honor, I'm not made of money, I think she made some poor choices and probably isn't thinking past herself and her own comfort. I had a reception and wedding at a park and it only cost us about $550. But we spent those two weeks scouring the entire area for the best prices and we made sure that everyone attending could afford to come. The reception could be done a better way. A pot luck reception can never go wrong!! If everyone brings enough of one or two dishes for THEIR family, then you can be sure that everyone will get full. good luck! me ^_^ Well, just because the bride is being a jerk, doesn't mean that you can't try to make the best of it for your husband's friend (the groom). The whole idea of a wedding is for people to come together in celebration of the joining of two people. The bride and groom don't have to feed their guests, there's nothing in the rule book that says it's a must. Just like you and your family don't have to be there. You could have always said no. Listen, you're not doing this for the bride, you're doing this for the groom. If you guys are his friends, you stand with him through thick or thin, regardless of who he chooses to spend his life with. I think it's great that your family is so involved with the wedding, it is indicative of how highly the groom and bride think of you. By the way, if you don't want to go to the bridal shower, just say no, I'm sorry, I really wish I could, but we can't afford it right now. If she doesn't understand, at least you gave her a polite answer. I think your the one being rude at the end of the day its their wedding you dont get a say in what they spend money on & what they dont. If your so cheap that you wont fork out $5 to park then dont go I doubt they'll even know your not there. You dont sound like a very good friend to me & they would be better off without you x |
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