How do you tactfully tell someone their teeth are yellow?

A child once under my care is being married in May. I am paying for a very expencive photographer to capture her beautiful moments.( another photofrapher has been hired by the other side of the family to do the reception ) I am sure she takes a whack at'em every day or 2 but her teeth have not been cleaned since she lived with me 6 years ago his are even worse. HIs have yellow fur on them almost everytime I see them. Go ahead and call me snobby or whatever....Just as long as you have an idea how to tell her they need to have their teeth cleaned.Its not about money ok. Clean teeth are the mirror of health and they are really young yet. Help !

sorry about the spelling my spell check isn't working and I don't feel like correcting :)

Regarding photographs: Professional photographers can whiten teeth with photoshop. The pictures are not the problem.

To advise the young couple, take them aside and tell them that dental health affects total health. Studies have shown a relationship between gum disease and heart disease. They believe the bacteria travel to the heart through the blood vessels.

Dental color is cosmetic, so don't focus on that. Brushing and flossing are important for dental health. You might want to add that some people (my mother) swear that once you lose a tooth, the others come down like ducks in a shooting gallery. And that's with dental care.

The best way to keep you teeth is to fight the first attack on their integrity: Brush to avoid cavities and floss to avoid gum disease.

Wish the young couple luck for their future and decades of love together.

What if you bought them a little "fun basket" of wedding preparation stuff. Like soothing tea, an eye-gel mask, nice lotions, etc. And you can include a set of Crest White Strips for each of them in there.

Later you can ask how they liked them, and let them know how great they are going to look in their wedding photos. You can do it in a nice way that doesn't have to be offensive.

You don't tell her. I'm sure they both have mirrors at home. Instead of hiring a photographer, maybe give them a cash gift and it they want to have their teeth cleaned or whitened let them. It would be very rude for you to bring it up to them. It's not worrying them, so don't let it worry you.

How do you tactfully tell someone to mind their own business? You are crossing the line. Actually, naturally yellow teeth are stronger than very white. Anyways, all professional photographers retouch, and teeth whitening is the first thing they fix.

Make sure that everything is digital and just photo shop all the incorrect, or not acceptable lasting memories. Then you can pay for a teeth cleaning and whitening the day before, but you may come off as...

Good luck!!!

Ok, these people obviously see their own teeth when they look in the mirror. Why do you need to get involved? It's their wedding. They know how they look now, and they shouldn't expect their teeth to look any different in the pictures.

I thought weddings were meant to be about the happy couple, not how yellow or white someones teeth are in the photo. Sounds a bit superficial too me, sorry. lol

Uhm..Pay for those 1 hour whitening things at the dentist, or buy whitening strips. Telling someone their teeth are yellow won't magically turn their teeth white that second...

What about paying for a cleaning for the both of them as part of a wedding present.?

Give her a gift certificate to have her teeth whitened as a gift. I would love it if someone gave me one!

suggest about going to get their theet whitned and cleaned so they could look extra nice in the pictures

tell her to brush her DAMN focking teeth or else I aint going to take picture.

Then if you really care you will pay for her cleaning, and maybe purchase an over the counter teeth whitening system they will do wonders for someone whom has less than perfect teeth. They will see several shades of whitening in a few weeks. Just tell her, and even though you tell her, she may not have the means to pay for it. This is the reason why I suggest you pay for hers, maybe someone will do the same for him.

Or maybe you can show them an article in a magazine of a person with white teeth, and just talk about it.

Why don't you buy her a gift basket full of what brides like to use to prepare for their pics - good lotion, exfoliating scrub, Crest White Strips, etc...and when she opens up the package, say something like "I just started using those whitestrips and its amazing how well they work! I just love them."


Ew, people really need to take care of thier teeth! I notice though, that America puts alot of emphasis on teeth, but MANY people I've met from the UK and Canada do not take care of theirs. I know that this is a huge generalization on my part, but in my mind, some of it is cultural based on materialistic attitudes. At least though, even though having the perfect white teeth is a bit materialistic, its still just good plain health practices to take care of them!

ask the photographer to whiten the teeth in photoshop, if you pay a lot of money, you can totally ask that (if that's what you concern about, the result in the pictures). it is a very minor job for a profesional photographer to do this make over.

or you can talk to the bride and groom that it is very good to take care of them selves like going for a teeth cleaning or gym so that they will look good in their wedding day and their wedding pics. I'm sure if you have the right motivation, they won't get hurt at all. good luck

Using tact, you could give them gift certificates or whatever for complimentary cleanings at your favorite dental office. The certificates (or whatever) would have a deadline on 'em that forces them to show up. Be sure they don't have anything planned for this period if possible. Throw a massage treatment in the packet so it all seems like a luxury day or something. Once they fall for the trap and they're strapped into the chair, game on. Soon gingivitis will be packing it's bags and you won't have to wear a surgical mask when you're having conversations with 'em. Before they arrive for the cleanings, you could mention to the Dentist that these two need a good a@# chewing about their horrid brushing and flossing habits ... and call it a day.

Sure, their habits are probably not going to change, but at least for the wedding (and the guests) (and the photos).... those furry yellows will be pearly white.

I'm guessing since she used to be "under your care" and you are paying for her wedding photographs you have some type of a mother/daughter relationship? Is this correct? If so, what are you waiting for... just come out with it. I'm 28 years old and I know my mom has no problem pointing out if my eyebrows aren't perfect, if my toes aren't manicured, if I have a little bit of fuzz going on above my lip, if I've put on a few pounds, and if I have a huge chuck of spinach in my teeth. It drives me absolutely crazy, but, hey, at least I know what she's thinking. As far as dental hygiene my mom literally calls me every six months to see if I've made an appointment for my bi-annual exam and it's not even like I'm on her insurance. Gah!

Hey, you don't have to be as obnoxious as my mom, but I don't see any reason why you can't just come out with it and say "Why don't you have your teeth cleaned so the pictures come out better? I'll pay!"

There's really no tactful way to tell someone that. I'll bet you a dollar they have mirrors and are aware of what their teeth look like.

How close a relationship do you have with her? If you are able to talk about personal issues, you could take her aside and offer - as a wedding present, even - to have her teeth professionally cleaned so that they'll look their best in the photos. If money really isn't an issue you could extend the same offer to him. That's enough of a hint to get the point across, but it's made in the form of an offer, so they can graciously decline if they choose. And if they do - that's their choice.

The only way to do it without really hurting her feelings is to schedule a whole bunch of beauty treatments, including teeth cleaning. You don't have to say "you're teeth are disgusting" -
Just say, I've booked you a fabulous hair appointment, a manicure, a pedicure, we're going to get you a spray on tan, and teeth cleaning and whitening (and book some stuff for the groom too, just maybe a haircut, tan and teeth).
Yeah, that's a lot of money, but if you don't do the other stuff you are going to have to tell them they've got nasty teeth. This way it looks like you're giving them this fabulous makeover for their special day.

For the record, I'd never get involved in this. If they are adults, dental health is their concern and they can see their teeth as well as anyone else - maybe they think yellow is the new black.