Should I break up with him?

So I've been dating this guy Brent for 6 months now. Sometimes I'm happy with him, and other times I think to myself 'why am I with him?' I mean, he can be a really nice guy and we have fun together. But he has a lot of bad qualities too.

One bad quality is stealing. He stole a digital camera from a store, and he stole Guitar Hero from some random kid at college. When he told me about it I was shocked and didn't know what to say.

Another bad quality is that he's SO DAMN MOODY! I swear, he has PMS more often than I do! He gets upset over the dumbest things and will barely talk to me. Then all of a sudden he just snaps out of it and everything is fine again.

A final bad quality is that I do things with him and his family all the time, but I have to literally beg him to do spend time with me and my family. He wouldn't even come to my college graduation back in May because he thought it would be "too weird" to have to sit by them without me!

I don't know what to do anymore....I care about him, but I wonder if being with him is worth all this. I feel like I should break up with him sometimes but if I do he says he'll kill himself. When I even mentioned it one time he slashed his arm.

don't you think you deserve better? find someone who is honest and treats you with respect. this guy isn't worth your time. get away before he goes to jail and takes you with him. most people who threaten suicide are using it to manipulate someone. if they are serious, they seldom tell anyone if they don't want to be stopped. you shouldn't have to deal with his problems. has he stolen from you?

UhHh...Yes girl!!! u should! Imagine....He is not going to stop stealing...and one of these days they are going to take u in with him!!!! (jail)

Let's see: he is a thief, bi-polar, and feels "weird" being around your family...

Did you really need to ask?

holy crap this kid sounds like a retard to say the truth. Its upto u if u wanna break up, if he wants to go kill himself let him do it

And those are only the qualities you DO know about after 6 months. No, no, this doesn't sound good at all. RUN.

If you yourself are noticing all of these bad qualities, it probably isn't a good sign. And the longer you hold off and hope that things will be fine, will make it harder for you. In the long run, I don't think you'll end up happy. Relationships aren't going to be easy, but they should not be too difficult and especially only after 6 months. Threatening to kill himself is horrible. But you can't stay trapped. You don't deserve that. Maybe you should talk to some others about it. Like his friends or family. Let them know that you only want what is best for both of you and that is for you to go your seperate ways, but that you want to know that he won't hurt himself. Try to be nice about it. But don't stay stuck in a relationship you are unhappy in.

You are not responsible for anyone's actions but your own. Do not stay in something because you are scared what they will do if you believe it is possible get him help by giving him resources. It is your life do not spend it with someone you want to be with. If it is him stay if you doubt it all the time then go. Waiting and taking longer will not solve anything.

1. dump him
2. go find someone better
3. be happy :D

Dump the moody thief!

Wow. This guy doesn't sound so great. I don't blame you for thinking about leaving him. I don't want to say you should or shouldn't though, especially because of the whole killing himself thing. I'd talk to a psychiatrist or call a suicide hot line or seek some professional help on what to do because he might not be kidding. I wish you luck.

He is selfish and only loves himself. I don't think he knows how to love and definitely he does not love you. He is such a selfish person that he only cares all about himself, sharing is not in his dictionary.

Leave him and you deserve someone better. He has to deal with the break up.

obviously if the thought of you breaking up with him makes him commit harm upon himself...then he needs help; and, if you love him like you say, you'll be there every step of the way to make sure he receives that help.

on the other hand, I know what it's like to go through tough situations with guys and what I do that will really help you consider if your relationship is worth it or not.... jot down a list (preferably by yourself so you won't have others swaying in on things) of all the good things...and then a list of all the bad things.... that make up his character. Remember that his character defines him as a person.

After making the list, decide if that's someone you want to be with.

Easier said than done...but, remember, that if things go from bad to worse then it's better to quit while you're ahead!

Best of luck to you

i've been in that kind of relationship, years ago. it came to a point where i knew i didn't love him anymore but i was terrified he'll do something crazy if i leave. so i stuck by him for a long time. until he beat me up pretty bad..i had to report the abuse and endure terrifying months of hiding out in my house, fearing he'll sneak in & finish me off. but i heard he did some time for stealing some items in a grocery, went to counseling, & is still in anger management sessions. my advice to you is break away. if you think you can't do it or if you're too scared, report the problem to a counseling group or to the police. its a horrible experience i know, but you have to do something now. otherwise, you'll end up wasting years of your life or worse.

That is not fair that someone can make you feel that way! Even if he did hurt himself, remember it is not your fault, he is the one that cannot cope!
That little voice deep inside is usually right about what choices you should make in life, so listen to it!
Just remember, whatever decision you make, you have to live with it, noone else! So it is up to you!
Just do what is right for yourself!

hes crazy!!, he needs help, break up with him. on the phone. dont want him to hurt you.

Threatening self-harm to hold onto a relationship is a symptom of co-dependency. He's obviously trying to control you and is trying to isolate you from your family (aka your support system), to better control you. After he does that (if successful) will come the time where he breaks you down emotionally and makes you need him more and you then become dependent upon him for feeling good about yourself.

It's a subtle trap, and you don't sound too prepared to stay out of it. My best advice is for you to let Brent find someone else to victimize and manipulate.