My husband does crack I can't take much more?

He doesn't do it everyday. He is selling my stuff and just yesterday sold my dig. camera and all of my movie DVD's, and my car the driver side window was busted out. He cries and says he's sorry an then the next day he is really mean. I can't deal with it. I cry and I get angry with him. and I want to kick his ***. Should I leave? I love him so much. I don't do drugs so I don't know what he is feeling can someone advise..

You are second to his drug habit... and that means it's time to get out of there, for your own sake. If he truly loves you, he will get help. Until then, it's only going to get worse, and you can't be a part of that. But only he can decide it's not worth it any more and get help. Doing it for you isn't the right answer as it's not him that really wants to do it for himself. Move on... there are other people out there... and who knows, maybe that will be his wakeup call that he needs to get help. Good luck!

when you women describe a loser type guy and in the same sentence say I love him i know there is no hope for you. Love has nothing to do with it you don't throw your life away on some loser.

Please do not hesitate, find an Al-anon family group tonight and attend a meeting tomorrow. Continue to go to the meetings for at least six weeks. I have been in your shoes with a pain pill addict. The ups and downs are horrible and the sleepless nights are too. The best thing to do is not argue and find things to do without him and enjoy your life.

You will find many nice people in Al-anon how know exactly the way that you are feeling because many of them are experiencing the same pain that you are. They will embrace you the moment you walk into the door.

Then PLEASE DONT. He needs to seek help. But he wont, until HE admits he has a problem. There is nothing you can do FOR him. He needs to clean himself up FOR himself....Not for you or anyone else but for HIM. It has nothing to do with you. It's HIS problem. Time to cut yourself loose.

He's not doing it every day, YET. Think about what the future will be like if you stay with him. What will he do once he's sold all your stuff and has no money to buy crack anymore? Any future with him while he is using would be dangerous and depressing. You know what you have to do.

For your own sanity loving him or not if he doesn't get help you have to leave.

Trust me on this. I have a couple of friends who are hooked on crack, and it is too powerful of a drug to stop without going to an in-patient rehab. Find a good rehab center and tell him that if he doesn't enroll in the program, then you are going to leave. And MEAN IT!

I went through almost the same thing. My husband was taking my atm card for crack and disapearing for hours with my car. The last time he came back I told him he couldn't come home. I told him I loved him but it was too much like this. You have to stand up for yourself. Either leave or make him leave. My husband has went to NA and has been clean for months now.

You have to give him tough love. Move out before you loose everything you own, including your sanity. As long as your the enabler he will rob you blind, manipulate and control you. Crack is a horrible addition to withdraw from. If you have children do not hesitate to leave. Think about your children and save them from insanity. God bless.

Get a lawyer and cut his crackish azz loose

he is only on a downward spiral, unless he goes to rehab. This behavior cannot get better because his addiction will only make him crave it more and more, until he is doing it every day, and then pretty soon every hour of every day. He will not be able to keep his job in time and so he will steal everything you have. Its a hard descision for those who are addicted but he must chose between you or his crack. If he loves his crack more, then u deserve better and MUST MOVE ON.

Loving him, isn't going to do anything for him, my dear. He has a disease and all you're doing is enabling his behavior. Meaning, by you staying, doing all that crying and he's back to the same thing, ISN'T helping, your contributing as well, since he's hocking your household. You're a co-dependent. He's not going to get any better, he's going to get worse. Now, if you really wanted out, you'd left a long time ago. He has to work on this addiction and don't let him drag you down any further. I fell for his stories, and he's going to continue blaming you, you need to save yourself-never mind him. And don't be worrying about who he's going to hook up with, because chances are, a female drug addict doesn't want to go thru recovery alone. So, instead of worrying about him, you really need to worry about your health. Have you been tested for STDs? You need to, because you don't know where he's been. Fighting, cussing, name calling, and all that ain't going to help, you're just going to continue in a negative behavior, and you need to get out of this situation and leave. Now about your marriage, you need to decide what you're going to do. Are you better off with or without him? The only thing you represent is money for his drugs and that's his b****, so to speak. You don't count anymore, so don't bother trying to compete with it, you're better than that. Seriously, this is something you really need to get away from and quickly.

I do wish you luck on this one.

I will not be the one to tell you to leave him because, if you have been through all of that bull-sh*t already my word will just fall on deaf ears. But I will tell you to seek counseling, because you definitely have self worth issues. And you are incapable of making good and healthy decisions for your self,imagine if you had children, and then ask your self what is the right thing to do? would you give you child drugs? Would you let your child sit and watch your husband do drugs? this is your reality.......face it..

leave! then help him get help, if he changes try again

leave, love yourself first - he needs to work through his addiction.

Tell him that he needs to get help and that you will support him in doing so. If he doesn't you need to leave. None of this back and forth. You can not live like that, you need to love yourself more than anyone else, including him. Good Luck!

He needs help. Desperately. See what you guys can do about getting help for this, or try checking him into rehab. He's not going to kick this terrible habit easily, and he gets angry the next day because he's come off of his high and is facing reality.

You guys both need counseling, and he needs to get his addiction taken care of. This stuff KILLS marriage - literally.

I kinda know what you are going through with...
My wifes brother lives with us and I tell my wife if she doesn't kick him that I don't know what I am going to do....
She feels sorry for him and she has tried to help him this has been going on for 9 years that we have been together...But she has been trying to help him for 20 years...
The only time he gets on his on is when he finds some woman to help him and support his habit....
If he does not want help the only thing you are going to have to do is let him go......You can offer him all the support in the world but if he doesn't want the help or think he has a problem then you will never help someone that doesn't want the help....They have to want help for themselves.......We can want all we want but we can't take the addiction from them.....
Maybe if you kick him out maybe he will go and get help....
You can't go on living like this it will drive you crazy or lead you to pick up habits you don't want.....This stuff is so hard that it makes them sell there soul to the devil so they can have that high.......leave him before he sells you silverware or anything he can get his hands on and trust me I know they will...they will sell the dog if they have too...he sold my wifes dog and stole the kids games and like I said anything he can get his on....I wish this crap was never invented,,,,Sorry about the spelling I am a man who loves math but I hate spelling...Good Luck

If you have kids and your staying with this man that makes you no better then him for allowing your kids to be put through that kind of stuff. If you dont have kids then you need to either tell your husband to clean up his act or your gone. You married this man because you love him, im sure you thought it would be forever...well if you want to deal with this being your forever then there is not much more to say. Get him some help asap.