Do you think it's greedy to want a wedding?

Really long but please read :)

I've seen a lot of questions on here asking people if they regret their wedding and most of them say that they regret how much they paid and it's better to go to the court house & use the money for a honeymoon because it's only one day & weddings are to much trouble....anyway I would prefer to have a wedding and it's not like I'd break the bank on it, I've already found cheap but nice decorations & flowers, bridesmaid dresses, and I would make my dress or find one on ebay, and I wouldn't have to pay that much for a photographer because my moms cousin is one and he said he wouldn't charge her (but she would pay him anyway), and we have looked at a nice outdoor area by a lake where we could have the wedding & reception, they only thing to worry about is food.... but I feel greedy to ask for a wedding even though it would be small, and also when my fiances brother got married at the reception some one I think the brides family kept telling us we could use

use the left overs from his brothers wedding and it mad me feel bad like they thought we couldn't afford anything new, and another woman told use that she didn't think she could help with our wedding EVEN THOUGH NO ON ASKED HER TO

sorry this was long and sounded like I was venting, I'm just very emotional and get upset easy

I had a nice wedding (nothing fancy, but nice) and I don't regret it one bit.

My mom never had a wedding and it's one of the biggest regrets of her life!

I think it's only "greedy" when the bride only focuses on topping her friends or other weddings. I went to a wedding where it was sooooo obvious the bride was just trying to show out. It was ridiculous.

You don't need to use leftovers, hun! You can do what we did - just have finger foods.

Relax, your wedding is going to be beautiful ;)

Many people may feel that way but this is your day for you and your fiance. Make beautiful memories together it will be the day you will never forget. You can go inexpensive we even asked people to bring a dish to help with the food cost and they were happy to do it. So I say do it how you want and make it the best day ever for the two of you.

It sounds to me like you want a wedding. You've already done a lot of work on it, and you say it won't cost much, so if it makes you happy, go for it.

Those who regret their weddings are usually people who had big, fancy, tacky weddings that got them into debt. Some people blow enormous amounts of money on weddings, and it's ridiculous. You don't sound like that kind of person though.

Good luck!

P.S. I would not ask anyone besides my parents to bring food, or give any money to pay for the wedding - it is considered tacky and rude in most places.

If a wedding is what you want, then that is what you should shoot for. I recently got married (DEC07) and we had a small ceremony and reception. At first we were planning a bigger wedding but due to circumstances we had to improvise. I am hundreds of miles from my wife and we were able to plan our special day just fine. Sure at times we had to sacrifice a few things that we had planned, but in the end it turned out to be a GREAT day. Don't let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do when it comes to your wedding. There is always a way. It'll just take hard work. Good luck to you and your future spouse. I hope your day will be as special as mine.

I don't think you are being greedy, you seem to have thought about the cost and ways to reduce it, if it's just a small wedding with few guests why not do your own buffet and get family and friends to help. everyone likes a wedding and I'm sure they will want to help you they will feel part of your day.
For an alternative, why not go to the court house and marry, then have a big party for everyone, it works out cheaper and much less stress.
What ever you decide make sure you enjoy the day hopefully you will only do it once, don't worry if everything doesn't go to plan, something always happens, thats what you remember.
Good luck/

Of course not, not if you want to get married! And it sounds as though you are!
Just plan according to how much the two of you can afford - and have what you can and the number of guests which suit your budget.
Good luck!

i think you should definately have the wedding you want with everything you deserve. the wedding is to celebrate with your family and friends. the honeymoon is to relax afterwards and consumate the wedding (if you haven't already). they are both important equally so enjoy every little bit and do what you want.

Of course it is not greedy to want the whole traditional wedding! It's a totally personal choice and if that is what you both want then it is perfectly acceptable, no one will think you are being greedy or asking for too much, a wedding is all about what the couple envisage, so if that's what you want then great! Happy planning!

It is not greedy to have a wedding if that is what you want. It sounds like you are a wise gal and you have made some reasonable plans that will keep your wedding from being too expensive. Best wishes!!!

well i think that the people saying not to have a wedding are older and already had their wedding. i think if they had eloped that they might look back and wish they had a wedding. it might be only one day but it is a big commitment in ones life and i see nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate it with friends and family. noone says you have to spend tons of money one it, people buy 30k cars when they can really only afford one for 20k and noone makes a fuss. we cant take our money to the grave so i think we should spend it on what is important to us.