Marrying young. How should I deal with family?

I recently became engaged to my 23 year old boyfriend (I'm 18) who I have been living with for 7 months and who I have been close with for 3 years. When I told my mom she gave her congratulations and expressed her happiness towards the idea. I just don't feel that her emotions are very sincere. She hates FH. I've told my dad who isn't involved in my life at all and he told me that he's happy for me. My concern here is that many of my family members have told me that I should wait til I graduate college to start planning, but we've already picked out the perfect date, perfect venue, perfect photographer and such... we just went to a HUGE bridal show.

Anyway, I don't want them to think that i disrespect their opinions, but we've already spoken with vendors and planned on paying deposits for our date soon. We're not getting married for another year and a half, but I don't know how to tell them.

Be prepared to answer their questions. Know already how you will support yourselves, how you feel about children, and disciplining those children, religion, what will happen if one of you lose your jobs. If you have discussed these things with each other, and have mature answers, they may still be upset, but not as relentless. Just be sure you are preparing for a life long marriage, not just a really fantastic wedding.

your family does want whats best for you and you won't listen no matter what i say I just hope you prove me and ur family wrong and hope your not 20 and divorced with three kids

you will only be 19.5years, don't you think rather to wait until at least 21. You 2 are staying together so why rush, now the two of you can get to know all the nice and bad things of each other and to be sure about the years to come. I got married at 21years knew him for 4years and now 8years married and some days i wonder if i shouldn't have waited when you hear your friends telling about their lives and you missed all that. The most important if you decide to marry don't start with a family before 3y marriage i was told and fell pregnant before the big day, and now realise that a very important time that makes a differece later in marriage was missed

The reason that your family members want you to wait until you are out of college is because you will more than likely not go to college if you marry b4 college. Many young women have really high hopes that they can do so many things once they are married and that they have all the time in the world. you don't, it is going to take both of you to maintain a household, and money will be very tight. Plus later many young brides, feel as though they have missed out, and truthfully .... they have. What I have always suggested is to finish school and go to college, get a good paying job, travel and see the world, save YOUR money, purchase YOUR own home in your own name, and keep his name off of any of the paper work. This way you will have no regrets, and you will have a home in your own name that belongs to you, that you can rent out later when you do decide to get married, and this extra money you can put towards the mortgage and property taxes, and save the extra in your own account if something were to happen between you and your husband at a later date, you will always have a home that is just yours and since you would have obtained prior to your marriage, it remains yours as long as you do not obtain a loan on that property with his name on it. As a woman you must play it smart for you own benefit. Personally I feel that you are way too young to get married at 19, 20 years old. You need to get some life experience behind you before you commit to a marriage.

Put off the wedding until the two of you are more mature. If you can't handle family (not even mom and dad), you are NOT ready to tackle the world together. From what I read, this is YOUR marriage. YOUR wedding. Why should they care when you get married, and why is their opinion making you crazy? You have a lot of growing up to do in the next year and a half. If you don't, your marriage doesn't stand a chance.

when do u graduate college? make the date after u graduate. don't change anything but the date. and as for your mom remember she took care of u all your life and now has to accept that u are grown not a easy thing to do.