Can Any Of You Relate To This; Having A Famous Person As Part Of The Family?

Due to the issue of privacy I unfortunately cannot reveal the name of the celebrity. I am getting married this coming summer and will like this person to be a guest at the wedding. He already said that he will try to make it to the wedding by any means possible. When dealing with a celebrity as a member of the family, it could be difficult. If he does manage to come, he has to come with bodyguards and we have to worry about the mounds of photographers looking to catch a glimpse of him. We also have to keep the wedding private due to the countless number of people we did not invite so that they will not follow us to the church and to the reception just to be in the same room as him.

Do we really need all this? I would love him to be there but I don't want to worry about the paparazzi, crazy fans and whatnot trying to "break in" in our special day. What should we do?

I too am related to well not really a celebrity, but to someone a bit more popular than alot of celebrities in Hollywood. And no I don't brag about it, and no I don't usually share the information with people...I haven't really been in your shoes to say, but letting your relative know that you want him there is a great gesture. I just hope if he can't make it... you are not too overly disappointed. I wish you the best of luck. The only thing I can really suggest is that you send out the invites but there is absolutely no need to inform any of the guests who you are inviting. As for the relative... I'm sure being in the spot light as much as he probably has been, he's found some ways around being seen, followed and such.
Once again..best wishes on your wedding, your future, and your health/happiness.

tell your family member that you really want him at your wedding and ask if he's ever used a disguise when he goes out in public. would you wear one to your wedding? the bodyguards should down play their role and dress like the are attending a wedding.

I can't relate, but if you haven't sent out invitations yet, why not invite everyone you want to without telling them the exact place of the wedding until a couple of days prior?

Invite him to the reception, but ask him to keep the wedding ceremony peaceful to watch it later on video. I am sure he will understand as he would not want to burden the ceremony I am sure...

-R

I would talk to the family member about this. He/She is used to figuring out how to handle things of this nature, with a minimum of inconvenience to you. Bodyguards know how to handle this as well. I would let him and his staff worry about it. If he's polite, and I'm sure he is, he won't want his celebrity to draw attention from the real reason everyone is gathered--to witness your wedding vows.

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Unfortunately my friend there is really nothing you can do if the information is leaked...My cousin was the Captain of Our National soccer team and when he came to my dad's funeral he was getting his photo taken and asked for autographs....I know where you are coming from but some people do not respect privacy anymore..There is a time and a place and in my opinion a private function should be what it says..Private.

You have to ask yourself if all this trouble is worth this person coming to your special day. Personally, if this person wasn't a blood relative or a really close family friend, I wouldn't go through the trouble. You're just asking for wedding chaos.

Unfortunately, you can expect fans at your wedding to take photos with him, but I think that would be perfectly reasonable. Congrats on your wedding by the way!

If your friend wants to come I am sure they know what might be expected. I hope they can make it, forget about the paparazzi press intrusion and make it your special day; I am sure your friend will.

Surely you dropped his name a couple of times, so many people will probably spread the word he will attend. So invite him, keep his RSVP to yourself, give him a fictious name, have his extra guests at a table of their own with him. Protect his privacy and yours, anyone asks, he has another commitment. When he does come through, have him ushered in, have his seated and keep his celebrity status as quiet as possible especially if he is a true friend. Chances are he will pass. Maybe you can meet with him at another time to celebrate privately.

Almost sounds like you want the extra hoopla the celebrity will bring. Keep you and your yours the main attraction and hopefully his RSVP will be with regrets.

Good luck

I can't really relate, but my first thought reading your question was "Give the guy a break!" He deserves some normalcy you know - maybe he would like to just hang out with friends and family too. Maybe he gets tired of all the attention, and here you are thinking about not inviting him because it would be to much interruption of your special day. It is not like he is the one getting married, so I would not think the chaos would be quite as bad as you are painting it. I feel badly for a guy who, just because he became famous, is now shunned by his family and old friends because they don't want the hassle. Thus all he has left are folks that want something from him. Just a thought.

How can you not be overshadowed on your wedding day by his status as a celebrity? You'd have to wonder whether people came to your wedding to see you get married or to gawk at your relative.

Have you talked to him about your concerns?

I can't relate to this myself, but I know that celebrities have ways of avoiding paparazzi...and not just covering their faces with their coats. He may be able to help you out.

Surely celebs do get a little private time, not all their lives are played out for the public. I read tabloids and have never seen photos taken at a celebs relatives wedding. Unless that relative was a celeb themselves or marrying one.

But then I don't know who the guy is you're related to, unless he's Tom Cruise, Justin Timberlake, Kanye West, george Clooney or Brad Pitt...you should be relatively okay as far as paparazzi goes. Unless you're getting married in or around a celebrity hot spot where paparrazi pretty much live. If that's the case don't elt anyone know he's coming, tell them he can't make it. Have him either show up disguised or through a back way.

I'd also suggest that his security dress as if they're usual guests.

Maybe see if he can bring other security to guard from the outside to make sure no fans try and sneak in.

I really don't know...

Make the wedding and the reception by invitation only.
are you having vale parking? the attendants can check invitations before parking the cars. That should keep most unwanted crashers out.

Don't mention his attending to anyone. have him come into town the night before the wedding and have him show up just before the ceremony begins. By then most people have stopped looking around and socializing.

The reception, the same thing set it by invitation only make sure the attendants have a guest list to go by.

You will still have idiots try to get in, the more discrete every one is the less chance you will have of intruders. You could also contact the police department and have them patrol and try to keep the paparazzi to a minimum. I am sure there will be a charge but worth the bother.

His bodyguards know how to handle things and I am sure that he knows all to well how to deal with paparazzi.

Obviously you've already extended a verbal invitation to your family member, and no matter how 'understanding ' he may be, if you were to withdraw your invitation, it would be incredibly rude and hurtful to do so. "Crazy fans" make it difficult for celebs to glean even a little bit of normalcy in their lives, and maintaining close family relationships becomes difficult for all the reasons you have expressed... however it is still important for everyone involved to make the effort to accomodate his special circumstances so he can attend. Celebrities attend functions all the time...and with a little bit of discretion and planning, there is no reason why your family member could not be escorted quietly into the church after all the guests were seated, and be the first guest to be ushered out. Depending on the size of your guest list....the only people who will be curious about whether or not he attends, are the people attending who already know he's a family member....and you are under no obligation to share that information with anyone. If you're really concerned about media and unwanted guests making a nuisance of themselves...making your ceremony private, 'by invitation only' actually lends an elegant air...your guests will feel honored to present their guest cards! And a very visable police/security detail should do nicely to deter any enthusiastic onlookers. As long as they keep their distance....who cares who stands across the street and gawks? What may or may not go on outside the church or reception hall should not prevent you from sharing your special day with the people you love.

I have alot of very well known people in my family. But none are papparazzi worthy. My best advice would be to tell the famous relative to not come, because of the importance of the day. That's all I can say. Good Luck.

well i think your lieing since we cant know who they are