Mom is slacking BIG time?

I got engaged in oct, Im getting married in oct of this year. I gave my mom a list of guests in dec. bacause I wanted to send save-the-dates in feb or march cause we have some out-of town guests and the wedding is on a friday. I want family to have plenty of time to take off work (its in the middle of the day). Ive asked SEVERAL times to get the addresses or at least the phone numbers of the guests that I dont have contact with (like her old friends and distant relatives) she just blows it off and does something else. My MIL got ALL of my addresses. I told my mom if she's busy, I can call them and get addresses as long as I can get phone numbers. She blew off calling her photographer friend and dj friend. I had to hire someone else. she seems too busy to help but I need this to be done. Im addressing invites in may and june to be sent in aug. Im doing this all myself so I have to do it early. what should I do? If she cant do this, I would but she wont let me! She said she will do it!

how am I supposed to use the internet to find addresses for people I dont know! They're -her- friends and relatives!

Tell her not to be so slack and start helping, this is important! I would not rely on her help too much, she does not sound interested unfortunately. Just say 'if you just get the addresses I need I won't ask for any more from you because obviously you have a problem giving it'. Tell her if she does not give you the addresses SOON then you will not be inviting any of her guests! Good luck!

She's not getting married, you are. Use the intermet to get the addresses. Find your own contractors.

If they are her old friends then I wouldn't worry about it, plain and simple tell her you need them by "this date" and if you don't have it they aren't invited. As for the distant relatives, find another relative like an Aunt or Uncle or even a cousin that you are in touch with to get you the numbers or addresses.

Personally If we don't know our relatives well enough to exchange Christmas cards then they aren't being invited to the wedding, and chances are they won't be expecting to be.

Tell her you think it's sad she is not excited for your wedding and does not want to be a part of the planning. Ask for a copy of her address book so you can start calling relatives. If she says she will do it, tell her you are coming over and getting the list because she's been telling you the same thing for awhile. Set a specific time you need a phone number or address list by, just say you are coming over 'Saturday' and since she's too busy to help plan a wedding with you then you will just pick up her address book or print it off the computer. Sometimes a little guilt trip goes a long way.

Just don't invite them.
If they are her friends and relatives they don't really need to be there anyway.

I'm sorry broh, you gotta' step up! You must go get those addresses in your hands.
Time to involve your fiance'. Have her get those addresses!
Who's gonna' mess with the bride to be? Nobody! Everyone will cheerfully do what ever is necessary 9X/10. They do not want the bad press, the rep, or the bad karma of lousing up someone's wedding for no good reason.
Ur wifey 2 B will get results!
Good luck!

Tell her that if you do not have the names and addresses or phone numbers of the people (give her their names) by such and such date that they will not be invited to the wedding.
End of story.

To be honest, some people are not good at these things. I understand that you assumed your mom was going to help you with this wedding, but it looks like she is not a good planner/organizer. I think you should try to find a aunt or cousin that is a hand-on organizer/helper.

I have to agree with the folks who said to set a date (maybe next week sometime!) by which she has to give you the stuff. On that date, if you don't have the info, make a special trip to Mom's house to get it. If she then doesn't have it, or won't just let you borrow her address book, her friends don't get invited. End of story. It's not like you didn't try REALLY hard. Any relatives on the list should be able to be contacted via other relatives, so talk to someone else in your family about them.

She's your mom, not your personal assistant. If she doesn't seem to be on the ball with getting the list together, either sit down with her yourself one weekend and help get the list organized, or just ask her to trade you jobs and let her do something less immediate, like helping put together favors or something. Some moms don't have the organizational skills necessary to help out in the capacity you want her to.

I hear you getting married in June and my mom just got her dress.

read this link

http://www.gomestic.com/Entertaining/Pla...

rethink your plans.. who will suffer if these people dont come?? not you ( unless your only pupose to invite them is more gifts...)
dont worry about it..

if you do not know.. then they clearly are not people important to you already.. so why should they be there?

Easy solution. Tell your mother if you don't have the names and addresses by X date they are not going to be invited. That will make her move. If it doesn't - less guests for you to worry about. BTW - if you don't know these people why are you inviting them? Our parents invited some friends but our one rule was we had to know everyone who was being invited. It was Ok if I knew them and my hubby didn't and vice versa. Even with that rule they snuck in 2 or 3 couples we didn't know.

Pay your mom a visit and borrow her address book. If this isn't possible, get the telephone number of one responsible family member (maybe one of your mom's siblings?), give them a call, and ask for their help.

I would not recommend getting addresses off of the internet unless you know for a fact that the people haven't moved in the last 5 years or so. If you look me up on the internet it gives an address I haven't lived at in 3 years! So I know for a fact that the internet addresses aren't always up to date.