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Is it tacky for my future in-laws to re-invite all the wedding guests to the second reception? |
I am getting married in my hometown, but currently reside in my fiance's city, which is 750 miles away. Since many of the groom's family members and friends won't be able to attend the wedding, my future in-laws want to hold a second reception here. However, they recently made it known that they already have a guest list of over 200 people and feel that they should invite everyone they mention the wedding to, including their co-workers, most of whom my fiance and I have never even met. The second guest list also includes my entire family (again). I think this is really tacky, especially since my fiance and I stressed that we wanted to keep the reception small. Also, 200 is the same amount of people as were invited to the actual wedding, and my mother in law wants a photographer, videographer, cake, fancy hall, and formal wear again. Am I crazy to be worried about this? Is it even polite to invite people we don't know and people who have already celebratued with us and given gifts? Help I wouldn't double invite guests. That seems tacky. However it makes since to have a reception so his family can then join in on the celebration. And if they are paying, don't worry about it. Think of it as a second chance to wear your wedding dress and celebrate your love and union. I think it is weird just because you don't want it. Just tell her if she has it, you are not going to show up. YOu are right. The reception in groom's family hometown should only be their friends and family members. Possibly your parents shoulld be extended an invitation but they should not feel obligated to attend. if they are paying for everything let them do it. As for your family let them know they dont have to bring gifts. Let the parents do this it will make them happy and it will be anice gesture from you. Good luck Yikes! Yes, it is tacky. It is inappropriate and inconsiderate, unless they have no idea you're not interested. I say elope, but then, I'm not going to have to be involved with these new relatives for the rest of my life. One thing, if you roll over for this one you're gonna be pushed around a lot. Find some tact, compassion, and support from your future husband to come to a resolution with HIS PARENTS that suits YOU and him. It's your wedding, your new life. They need to back off. If it's a party for YOU, then they should do what you want. If it's a party for them, why pretend it's about your wedding? Finesse, my dear girl, finesse, tact, compassion, firmness and certainty. It's the beginning of your new life. Sorry you're having to jump in at the deep end! Best wishes! First you and your diance need to let his parent sknow your plans and how you all want to celebarate the second reception! Your family do n ot have to attend again unless they desire to. It seems that you will be repeating the wedding again and for that much stress you should probably have the o ne and invite them and for those that cant make the trip they want make the trip!! It sounds like your in laws want the wedding they want to have with the celebaration they have already plan!! You and your fiance will have to make it known what you all do want second wedding. Its a little tacky to expected the same guest to come and to give gifts! Try not to burn bridges with your in-laws so soon, you will be around these people enough in the next life time to tell them off! Try to put a positive spin on it, feel flattered that they love you so much they want to show you off to all of these people that you do not even know. Hopefully they are not expecting you to throw money into this extra reception and make sure you let the wedding guests they are not obligated to attend another reception and no gifts are required. Otherwise, sit back and enjoy the food and gifts!! |
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