Help! I am getting married in Oct. and have an issue with my fiance'...?

First let me say that I am so very much in love with my fiance. He is the best man in the world and I have never given a man some much emotional, spiritual, (yada yada support, love ect.) ever to any other man. Which is why I said yes to his proposal.
Problem is: He acts like a PMSing woman! I go above and beyond for this guy and if it one thing I dont do (or not do ENOUGH)...he gets angry. For example: He recent issue is that I dont send him enough pictures of myself on my camera phone. Mind you, he is a photographer and has MILLIONS of pictures of me. but b/c I dont send him any on MY phone, its a problem. I just am too busy doing other things, (for him, my family,our wedding, my graduation from nursing school) I just dont feel like it. He says "it only takes a few seconds just do it, I do things you ask me to do." Which is true but I do a HELLUVA lot for this guy and I think he is being a spoiled BRAT! Is he a PMSing guy or should I just do as he asks and move on?

thank you for your words of wisdom...its is much appreciated!

You don't see a problem with him getting angry every time your husband to be doesn't get what he wants from you?

You are too close to this problem. It's too bad you can't be on the outside and looking in.

You think he's demanding now, wait until you marry him. You are his wife and he will expect you to do more, more, more. You will wake up one day and realize that know matter how hard you try, nothing is ever good enough. Some day you will belong to the abused wife's club, hating your life and telling yourself, "I can't leave him because I love him and I want our marriage to work."

Wait until you have children with this man. He will not like sharing the #1 place in your life. His abusive behavior will only get worse.

Have you every asked yourself, why it is necessary for you to have to do so much for him? Why can't he take care of his own needs?

Never ever let a man bully you into doing something for him, when he can and should do it himself.

Some day you will find yourself married to this spoiled demanding child, holding down a job, doing all the housework, laundry, cooking, and caring for a couple of kids, and he will be demanding you to do more for him.

You will burn out and never have time for yourself.

There are so many REAL issues that two people face in a real life marriage. If this picture issue is creating big problems now, then what is your life going to be like when you have a real problem? Im my opinion, neither one of you are ready for marriage and you both have a lot of growing up to do before you can even consider marriage.

You're supposed to be choosy when finding and deciding on a permanent relationship. Are you sure you've properly done this job?

Don't be on this board in two years seeking divorce advice.

The issue isn't the pictures. The issue is his reaction. Be clear about what the problem is.

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I think you should confront him about the problem and try to talk it out with him in a respectful way and not bark at each other and raise your voices. It is amazing how you can resolve all your problems if you just talk with the other person about it!

THERE IS MORE THAT ONE TYPE OF ABUSE RELATIONSHIP. THIS SOUNDS LIKE ONE OF THOSE TYPES WHERE HE HAS TO CONTROL EVERYTHING YOU DO AND HAS TO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE THINKING 24/7. YOU MAY LOVE HIM NOW AND IF THIS IS THE WYA HE IS TREATING BEFORE BEING MARRIED THINK ABOUT WHAT IT WILL BE LIKE AFTER MARRIAGE. I WOULD SIT DOWN AND SPEAK WITH HIM ABOUT THESE ISSUES BEORE PROGRESS WITH THE WEDDING PLANS

He sounds like an idiot what difference does it make if he has a picture of you on his phone. Does he want a sexy picture to show his mates.
If this bad now wait until you are married it will be worse.

Every couple has problems big & small. trust me i have been married twice and still little things come up He sounds a little imature. This could lead to bigger things Lay it on the line now.. before it grows. trust me Divorce HURTS

Your fiancee sounds like a needy guy...can you imagine putting up with that day by day? Maybe you should consider moving on.

Your fiance is a control freaks and demanding...and i believe it will get worst after marriage!!!

Get out while you still can!!

You may not like this post, so very sorry!

sounds abusive to me
dont marry him to you all get couples counselling and address this issue

you should talk it out with him and maybe he will understand.

To put it to you straight, he is NOT the best man in the world. Nobody should be getting bent out of shape over something as silly as camera phone pictures. It sounds to me like he has serious anger management issues.

How is he going to act when the two of you face a real crisis during your marriage? What about when you have a fender bender in the car? What about when a bill doesn't get paid on time? Or the kids act up? Or his favorite shirt disappears in the laundry?

Not only will this guy be hell to live with, he might even prove to be abusive. Ask your friends and relatives what they truthfully think about this guy, then follow their advice. You deserve better.

I would be very careful about this- these needy and demanding behaviors may be indicative of a future controlling and abusive relationship (this was how my parents' marriage started off, and it has been falling apart). Please, do not jump into marriage without addressing this issue. It has the potential to escalate into something worse. Tell him your frank and honest opinion, and not just about the camera phone. As nice as possible, let him know that you do not like how he makes such demanding requests (especially over mundane things such as the pictures), and you wish he would act more appreciative of what you HAVE done for him (rather than demand more, or perfection for him). It is not too late to fix this problem, but please know when to recognize if it will not work. You are very dedicated and love him, and deserve the best treatment.
I wish you the best of luck.

When your first in love like that the other person wants reassurance that you are in love with them. His biggest thing is obviously getting pictures from you. When you take a few seconds to send him a picture, it lets him know that you love him enough to do that for him. And in my opinion, you should take the few extra seconds to send him a picture when he asks. A marriage is all about making it work. If you dont put in an extra effort now, you definately wont later.