Was I wrong, My MIL thinks so. . . . .?

Me and my husband have been together over 6 years. Through out those 6 years my in laws had a lot of parties and I would never jump into the pictures because I wasnt family. Well we got married in Sept. Last night we went to get our pics taken for my brother in laws conformation. The photographer said just the immediate family and for the first time ever i went up to be told to sit down by the photographer . . . . WTF im immediate family. . . my hubby said nothing so im pissed at him but my father in law who always made me get in the pics said nothing that hurt now that im family. . . well they didnt include me so they wouldnt hurt my brother in laws girlfriend WTF Im their Daughter in law and they rather destroy my heart. . . and i then my mother in law is mad at me for being upset. . .AM I WRONG FOR FEELING LIKE THIS. . . .

So for that one comment to know my roll. . . . I was always included in all family pics and asked to join in . . . know my roll haha funny so its ok for my kids to be in the picture but not their mother. . you should shut up

Immediate family technically means parents and children only. Not DIL, SIL, grandchildren, cousins, aunts/uncles, etc. Usually for an event like this the photographer takes multiple pictures including "immediate family" (as described above) and then "extended family" including spouses, grandchildren, and then "extended extended family" including aunts/uncles, cousins.

Yes, it seems/feels hurtful to be asked to step out of the picture. I've had that happen to me before too. But you should be respectful of the request and know that you'll be included in other shots. They have the right to have a portrait taken with just the "immediate family."

So it seems like if no one said anything, then you're probably the only one who didn't understand the process. I'm sure that there was no harm meant, and sorry, but I think that you've over-reacted.

Seems to me like you didnt want to be in the oics when you were engaged so they just asued you didnt want to be a part and didnt bother to ask now that you are married

No, my in-laws are like that too, little subtle jabs that hurt like hell and let you know you'll never truly be one of the family. My husband would never say anything either but he does now. It truly almost broke up our marriage. I remember once, they bought gifts for my husband and the kids but nothing for me and then said "sorry, we didn't see anything we thought you would like.". What a load of crap! They will always get mad if you're upset because in their minds they haven't done anything wrong and you're just being overly sensitive. Stand your ground and fight for youself and if I were you I'd be ripping your husband a new one! My mom was included in every single family picture my dad's parents had taken. To them, the spouses of their kids were members of the family. What about when you have kids, will they be members of the family? Will they let the kids in the pictures but still tell you to sit down? You should be considered immediate family. Wait a minute, I just read your added details! Are you saying that you allready have kids and they had the kids in the picture but not you? Oh my, that's even worse! You poor thing, even my in-laws aren't that bad! And you live with them too, what a slap in the face!

I'd of told the photograher go sit their own *** down and I would of raised hell.

You aren't going to want to hear this.

I can see why your feelings are hurt - you were embarassed and I imagine it was awkward for everyone. But you aren't immediate family - look it up. There is a reason that you are a daughter-in-law rather than a daughter, etc. This was a formal portrait, with formal rules.

You can save yourself a lot of grief in the following years of your marriage by not getting your knickers knotted by your status. They haven't "destroyed your heart". Leave off with the drama. Your various in-laws will love you all the more if you know when to back off and wait to be included.

Im with ya on this one girl....you have every right in my opinion to be upset!

You are entitled to feel that way.I don't know why they didn't include you but that would hurt my feelings as well. I wouldn't worry too much about what the MIL thinks....but I would have had a couple of things to say to my husband if he didn't stand up for me.

No you aren't wrong you are part of the family technically, that doesn't mean his family thinks so. I'd be VERY angry with my hubby for not standing up for me.

LOLOLOL>>>>>>>>>>>> The very same thing happened when my husband and I got married. You are NOT wrong for feeling like you do. In fact, this is going to happen from now on all the time. Get used to it. You could make a statement and tell your in-laws that you ARE immediate family and you will be in the picture. However, get used to it. I hope you don't live too close to them. However, make sure they know what your boundaries are so they don't continue to cross every boundary you have.