We recently fell into an argument about my career , I am a photographer making 39,000 a year she is a nurse making alot more than that and after 9 months complained of us not being right for each other because of our jobs she wants me to change careers but I only want to work in photography because it is my only outlet and career choice I can have since I am hearing impaired . I havepoetic sensibility and she wants me to earn more than usual so we can do things together that only high paid people can do .. I am very careful and frugal with my money and she wants to live the high life. My question is what should I say to her and should I just let her go and I have but she always makes it seem like she wants to keep the realtionship with hopes that I become someone better or something this is very confusing.. that is pretty controlling. if she really loves you she wouldn't care so much about your career choice. if you love what you do for work don't change it because your girlfriend doesn't. you should try and talk it out with her, but if that is her only solution - dump her. Shes materialistic, probably wants to get knocked up and sit on her ***, dump her. Unless you can get her to be satisfied with who you are and what you do, I think your relationship is in trouble. I'm not sure this the time to let her go, but you definitely need to talk to her about your stress. The demands she has for you to change and pursue HER ambitions instead of your own are not fair. If she really wants to live the life of a high roller, maybe she should do what I did last yr. I took on a part time job so I could pay for me and my sweets to go to Mexico for a week. It's not something I would do all the time, but my sweets ambitions are not the same as mine and I had the desire to go and the ambition to make it happen for us. | 