Why a wonderful husband will suddenly flirt in front of me with a friend that has been the soul of the party

A new friend of mine, in a small reunion I made with other friends, started to sing and dance and showing her legs in shamless manner, posign very sexy and blowing kisses to my husband and he ended taking pictures of her with a digital camera in our house. Next day at night time she came to pick up the pictures, and my husband aproched her from the back of the chair were she was seating and kissed her in the cheak, she was surprised and looked back at me. I remain calm. But my heart was in pain for more than a week after that. My husband was leaving to work offshore next day .So I haven't had the chance to talk to him about this.

He may be trying to punish you for something you did to him. Think about it.

Voters you did well! My husband has this revengeful nature. I was late once to meet him in a coffee shop. He got annoyed. Weeks later he took me to Costco and ask me to wait while he was going to look for something else. He left me there..I finally went home and found him reading the newspaper. Report It

Oh he would so be out on the street! How disrespectful to begin with all the flirting and the kiss oh that so wouldn't be happening!!! Oh and I so wouldn't put up with the revenge thing! My hubby does things but not that bad! ERRRRRRRRRRR ha Report It

Thanks for the feedback. I must be an old fashioned lady. Looking after the family, waiting for the man, dinner on the table etc. His revenges were very painful to me. I took them as a deserved punishment, how silly of me! I am waking up. Report It

Is there a question in your rambling account?

Your husband is sleeping with this woman.

Sorry.

well- this little kiss int he cheeck can lead to something els friend! keep your flags up and watch him. I know she's your friend and you're married but- it doesn't mean she won't do anything with him. I've seeen it too many times desire over powers the friendship and love people have together and screws it up. You should tell your husband how you feel and that you are not inviting her over anymore because this sort of behavior is disrespectful to you! put you foot down girl because she souns like a skank to me. She's blowing kisses at him? she's obviously flirting! that b itch! he's not my husband but if it was i'd be so mad at him for going along with it instead of demanding respect! My advice to you- don't let her in your house and have a really serious talk with your husband. He needs to have more respect for you

You have the right as the wife to confront your husband and the woman about this. This is imappropriate no matter what.

He's cheating on you and you dont even see it. DIVORCE!! if he does this infront of you imagine what he does when you arent around.

How could you have let him leave without comfronting him. There is NO WAY I could have held that in. That is just rude! He shouldn't have done that.

he might like her a lil' bit. but u cant stop guys from checking out other girls... trust me ive tried.... all u can do i keep them fomr DATING them....

The kiss was innocent. It was a way for him to say thank you for the entertainment last night. Don't think about it anymore. He loves you. Like any man we like to see another woman strut her stuff, it makes us appreciate you more.

Wow you remained calm, that is wonderful. your husband was out of line, I too am sometimes to flirtatious, i don't mean anything by it I am just overly friendly. I have to really put a lid on it. It's just my nature, I realize how bad it appears and must tone it down, it stems from an insecurity, that the feeling that i want everyone to like me. It does not necessarily mean your husband is cheating or even wants to cheat. I am very impressed that you remained calm, my wife would have flipped out and started swearing at everyone. what you need to do is calmly sit and tell your husband just how it makes you feel. And to be more respectful to you in the future. if it continues, kick his ***. Good luck. oh one more thing, He might be a cheater and you might be in denial about it. as I was, so there comes a point where you must no longer look the other way. don't be tread on.. Good luck

Sweetie, I do believe he is cheating, sorry! Be honest and upfront w/him. TALK TO HIM! Good luck!

hmmm , wouldn't want to be in your shoes! I would be standing in jail about now.

When ever you have a case of flirting in front of you face...seize the moment, tell him when you see it. I would have embarrassed him and probably myself too. lol

For some reason you decided not to talk with him that night...why? Was there alot of alcohol at this party, because believe me I have been at parties where I haven't drank & everyone else did & you wonder how these people can be your friends! Obviously, he is flattered by her attention & sexual flirting....why? Why is he intentionally disregarding any hurt feelings he might be causing you?!! Get to the bottom of this....especially since you say he has been a wonderful husband.

sweetie,
make sure you talk with him as soon as you can and clear it up because even though he did that i know it was wrong because it would of freaked me out to... but always hear his side of the story first before you go crazy on him (lol)... and let him know that you didn't like that and that it bothered you and just give him an ultimatum to don't do it again or else!!!!!.....
good luck::::::

I'm sure that cheating is on his mind if he hasn't done it already, Good luck

Well then. I guess you need to have a small talk with your husband when he gets home don't you?

After that....stop back and tell us what happened. It is clearly an issue that needs to be addressed.

In the meantime, I'd make it a point to have this exhibitionist stay out of my home. Oh...and there is nothing..and I mean NOTHING that is indicative of him "cheating" as some of these dummies here who've jumped to conclusions have said. My track would be that if he argues and says it was harmless fun that it was not the type of conduct you'd expect from him and are quite shocked he'd even behave in such a manner. I would say this in a tone of voice that would leave no doubt though that future occurrences will result in his being able to have his wish fulfilled. That way he can do a duet with her with him singing soprano.

Obviously there is something going on there. Why would she have blown kisses at him and he kiss her on the cheak? That is like throwing it in your face. Do you know if they haven't slept together? They may be doing it behind your back.