I resent them!!! Is this the "baby blues"?

My fiances mom was in the hospital the same time I was(ofcourse not having a baby) but they put her on the maternity floor with me to make it easier for my fiance she was right next to my room While I was still in labor in deliv.my baby was having small problems so they took her to the NICU and 15 minutes after they took her my fiance left to go show his mom the pics didnt come back until it was time for me to go 2 the maternity floor. Then his mom throwing up so he said he would sleep in her room and when I complained he said I was being inconsiderate but all I wanted 2 do was be with someone(by then my family was gone)After my baby was able to come out of the NICU he went to get her and walked pass my room to his mom room with MY baby I was pissed so I went 2 her room and they took pictures and stuff A week later I was home looking thru my camera and I erased all the pics of my baby and his mom I think I hate her.She took my time away

also when we were in the room sleep she kept calling him on his cell and asking him to do stuff and I was thinking thats what the doctors are for.... I know she didnt choose to be in there at the same time i was but I think they both could have did things differently so I wouldnt feel like i was thrown on the back burner

I'd be pissed right off too. Youre husband just is much to blame as his mother. Looks like he inherited her selfishness. I can't believe he walked the baby by you to go see him mom. That should have been family time for you two!! You have every right to be angry but what is being resentful going to accomplish? Just let your husband know you didn't appreciate the way he treated you and hopefully he should apologize for being so inconsiderate. I would hope this is just a rocky start and that he will be much more considerate of you in the future.

LOL, I probably would have deleted the pics too. That was horrible the way they treated you.

I would be SO mad if my mother-in-law or husband did that. You have every right to be angry. That's ridiculous that he would just take the baby straight to her room and not even let it's own mother see it first. And to stay the night in his mother's room j/b she was throwing up?? Um YOU just gave birth to his child!!

sounds like you need a trip to the doc for some dpression meds. for postpartum depression....

I cried reading this but I'm also 12 days postpartum and find tissue ads make me cry.

I think it's so sad that he wouldn't put you first to see your baby but I also think that you should share your sadness in tears rather than anger. He sounds dumb rather than intentionally trying to hurt you.

Tell him how much it hurt you that the baby was taken to his mum and not you first rather than how angry you are...remember you start every sentence with "I felt so sad or "I felt ...".

You have every right to be upset as this was your moment. I would concentrate on my baby and not what happened or you may lose the support you really need. Once you are stronger (in 3 months), let your anger be known!!! It's about the baby not the birth (take it from a c-section mummy)

You have plenty of time to think about this later. Now it's about you and the baby.

I think you are right that your fiance should've stayed with you the whole time and he should've brought the baby to you first. I also think maybe you need to take an anger management class. Dont freak out. You give them the time now, so that when your baby is two or three years old and screaming and crying you give them time with the kid so you get a break. You freak out now, they aint gonna babysit for you later.

This is the time to see the "big picture"---your baby is part of a larger group---it's a descendant of your mother-in-law, just like your grandchildren will be your descendants. Other people (relatives) have an interest in your baby---it carries on their lives, too.
In fact, the baby may be more like your relatives than it's like you---it's not a clone of you. See these people, and your baby's life in perspective, and don't be wildly possessive---it takes a village to raise a child.

If you're not crazy about your in-laws, join the club--most people aren't. But being in a family is learning to put up with everyone.

I would be SO angry if I was you. However, you might have gone a little far by deleting the pics, but I do understand how you're feeling. As for the baby blues, if it continues then go see a doctor, but if it's only what you explained then I wouldn't consider it the baby blues at all. I think anyone in your situation would have been angry. I'm so surprised at your fiance, hopefully this isn't the way things usuallly work with him.

it could be a little of both that you feel this way..blues and resentment..the blues are because of your hormones and fatigue and stress with your new little member..
congrats!!
resentment is there and its ok to have that feeling ..it is ok for you to feel this way because it was suppose to be YOUR day with YOUR baby and YOUR hubby..and unfortunately you had to share hubby with ur MIL..and you are right..your MIL and hubby could have done things differently and that there are doctors and nurses there for a reason..and hubby could have called another family member to take care of mother.
You should let hubby know that this hurt you because this moment was an intimate moment that was important not only in your life but his as well and NOTHING can turn back time and you both cannot experience that moment again..
look on the bright side..your MIL was probably more needy than usual because now she not only has to share her son with you..but also with a new member..you both are the most important people in your hubby's life and she probably feels like she is losing her son as well..
i'm sorry your special day did not go as you would have liked..and it is understandable that you felt that way..and tell hubby how important it was for you and how you needed him..and mom could have made an exception and waited or used doctors..MILS!!hmmmph!!