Am i being used?

my girlfriend never asked me to buy her anything she would never let me! now we had a big argument and made up and NOW she asked for a digital camera and to pay her phone bill! is she using me?

well i plan to purpose to her and we been going out 6 months! its a lil close but we love eachother but i cant help but feel that after the fight shes distant fake and using me just to buy her things! im confused.
i will buy her anything how much i love her im will to do it with these thoughts in my head! i just aint sure about it! she been acting fake and extra breezy though.....

LOVE

There is no time limit. Love can come in 1 second or it may take 50 years.

But love has a quality. If the quality is there then it is love, Even after 100 years, if the quality is not there then it is not love. It is not a matter of time.

LOVE means that you only have a desire to make your object of love happy without any selfish personal desire. Love is selfless.

That is quite a tall order to fulfill, but when it is there, it is there and you have it!

If you are trying to satisfy yourself in the relationship then you are under the influence of lust, anger, greed, etc. It is not pure love.

PURE LOVE means unmotivated and uninterrupted. 24X7 I think of you.

Pure love is even devoid of sex desire, though you may reciprocate sexually with your object of love to please them. When you have pure exclusive love for someone then you are essentially desireless. You only desire their happiness and their happiness is the source of your happiness--to the point that if they become happy by giving you distress, then you will take your own distress as your greatest happiness...because it makes them happy.

These are very elavated concepts of love and not ordinarily attainable on the material platform.

These are generally realized in our eternal personal relationship with God, who is really the only one worthy of such a high degree of love, and even then it is rarely attained.


ANSWER

Sounds like a lot of lust, anger and greed is going on over there between you two.


Hope this helps!

big time

uh... YEAH! she should never ask you for any material things out of guilt...

By a digital camera and save pictures of you having sex with another girl on it. That will shut her up.

er.. yes! only you know her and if this is out of the blue for her.. talk to her about it.

uh yea

I say yes she is using you....and im a girl i should know :)

No, she just feels more comfortable around you.

Maybe she is using you but it could be just because she is feeling in the blues or is in dept or something. You shouldn't make assumptions though. First you should find out if she is in depression or dept or something first before you go and make assumptions.

she probably just wants u 2 make up for whatever yall were fighting over but if u dont want to then ask why do u all of a sudden want me to pay for things that u havent b4 or mayb shes runnin low on cash.

Maybe that's what she wants for Christmas...if you love her, you won't be so petty... you'll just ask her for things you want also...(Material things, son)

Yes, she seems to have turned clever.
Otherwise which girl will ask her boy to her phone bill!

i have a cheap bf and it sucks. i dont ask for things i just would like him to do it himself. i think he uses me sometimes... buy her something you want to buy her... you know? dont let her make you buy her something...

Dont do it and see what happens...

a gift is something that you give because YOU choose to give it. Examine the reasons why ,and you will always find the answer.

nop u got ? u aksed for,

Need more info, like how long have you been together, etc but it doesn't sound to me like she is using you...you stated she would never let you buy her anything before....Christmas may play a bigger role in her asking for a digital camera and a paid phone bill more than just the fight

Yep, sounds like she's using you. Don't let her!!!!

Dude! I dont know hw many years or days or months you're together! If it is some days "She's using you only to pay her needs" If it is some months "' She loves you and wants u to pay for her maybe bcoz she dont have so much to pay" if it is a year "u should pay as she's really serious and mean a lot to you"

And friend, if she asked you to pay her bills and purchased something you should....bt the relationship in ur mind 4 her should be enough strong! Maybe she leaves you ' i pray to god she dont" but maybe...dan it will be ur loss! So better think twice while giving costly thinks to her or else it will be no use!

Wish u all th best!

yes..sounds like a definate yes.

Let her buy the digital camera and pay her phone bill by her own money.. You are her boyfriend but not her husband!

Of course she is. It seems like she waited until just the right time to strike. Maybe she thinks that you should feel guilty enough to do it.

I think it's unfair to jump to that conclusion. We don't know what type of person she is or if there was more to her request. I think you should ask her what caused her sudden change of heart and see what she has to say. Chances are based on her answer, you will know if she just genuinely needed help or was taking advantage.

good luck

i agree agree with arco

Yeh it seems she is cleverly using U