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Dad and wedding issues.? |
Ok I need help. I have been engaged since July of 06 and I have been planning simple things along the way, in November I asked my father ho much he planned on helping out so I could get a better idea of how much to save. He told me he knew that his responsibility as a father was pretty much everything and he would help alot. So we got through the holidays, lot more planning well now it's January and I told him that I need him to help me start paying for the reception/ceremony hall. He told me he really can't pay for alot and he thought I had all of this figured out but he would help a little. What? I am really hurt about this, he completly backed out and left me hanging. I am so stressed now. How do I move on from this and not have hard feelings for my father? Or any good money saving tips? I have already pretty much eliminated the caterer and florist and found a really cheap photographer, any other suggestions? Thanks! Certainly Megan you can save the expense of DJ by downloading your own songs and playing them off a laptop through speakers. You can also print your own invitations and response cards. Have a cash bar rather then an open bar. Buy some artificial flowers at a dollar store or and outlet and make up your own bouquets. Speak with the person where your reception is and see if there is anything that they can do to reduce your debt load to them. It is rather sad that your dad has changed his reaction regarding helping you out but you must have been aware of his financial situation prior to becoming engaged. I'm pretty certain that inside your father wishes that he could provide for you a princess wedding and feels regretful that he cannot. So please do not be too hard on him and/or angry either for that matter. You and your fiance are going to have to do a lot of savings prior to this day and cut back on some fun activities. Also if either or both of you receive any type of tax refund you'd be wise to use this towards your wedding. Best of luck in getting ready for this special day. Please do not allow yourself to get too stressed as things always work out in the long run. May you and your fiance have a wonderful day and a happy and healthy marriage. Congratulations also. Source(s): 51 years life experience Listen I know that to you your wedding day is a reallyy big issue but you have to remember that it is really the marriage that is important. You can have a reall lovely party that is intimate and inexpensive if you can get some true friends help you out. Do your own flowers and cook your own dinner. You cant ask your father to give you what he dose not have to give. Have a great day wedding day and good luck. I think your should never think that some else is going to pay for your wedding, that's very in-mature. You father is helping as much as he can. I would cut your guest list down to help save money. Cut out anything small and unnecessary- don't eat out, don't buy junk good, get rid of the Internet, cable or your cellphone if you can. Never make plans on someones elses dollar!! First of all, your father apparently misunderstood you. Was he 100% sure of his father-of-the-bride duties? I'm sorry this happened to you. But my top five money saving tips are to buy a dress that is not categorized as a wedding dress (a bridesmaids' dress or a prom dress, or even just an evening gown), use candles instead of flowers (much, much cheaper), use a reception venue that's untraditional (social hall, museum, park, etc.), nix the alcohol except for whatever you toast with (alcohol can be as much as 10% of your wedding budget), and reduce your guestlist size! (If your wedding comes out to $40 a person, cut out ten people and you just saved $400!) Make your invites and wedding favours i found this a big help and you dont have to be that good at arts and crafts to do it, make your own centre pices for the tables and place cards it works out so much cheaer and it is fun when you get the girls round to help, i also found a lot of simple things in wedding shops on e bay I don't blame you for being hurt, but don't let this ruin the wedding for you. Find out right away how much your father is willing to contribute. Do you have a friend or relative at whose home you might be able to have the wedding? We had our son's wedding at our house. A friend's daughter who is not a caterer but a good cook catered it. A friend did all the decorating of our house in exchange for a piece of furniture we no longer used. We got the flowers from a grower who had a stand at the farmers' market. Hope everything works out for you. |
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