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Should I change my Oct. wedding date? |
My honeymoon has been cancelled because I have to have surgery a week afterwards. I'm having another one a few months before and the meds I will have to be on mess with my head a bit and I'm worried that I won't be able to really remember much. On the other hand I've been waiting on this for a year. It was my bright spot while I was trying to get better. I love this man and we have so much of the planning all done, invites sent, people have booked travel, everything. I have a great photographer to capture all the memories and if I cancel it will be at least another year if not more before I'm healthy enough and have time to set another date. I'm so torn. He says it's up to me whether we cancel the wedding or not. My fiance and I discussed your situation and we think it should come down to how much you think you'll be able to enjoy your wedding. If you think you can still really enjoy your wedding in October, then perhaps you should still have it. The first thing my fiance thought of was if you canceled the large wedding, still getting married by a Justice of the Peace before you have your surgery and recovery time, so you will be married while you go through everything. And then once you're recovered have the biggest party ever - and the big wedding!! You'll deserve it. My fiance helped me through cancer when we were in college - so he's very empathetic to your situation. He doesn't suggest the JP in any way to deny you the big wedding, he thought it would be something special to be married and knowing you're married while you go through the surgery and everything. I can imagine how torn you must be. Does it help having the wedding to look forward to? Postponing it another year feels like a long time, but if you don't think you can fully enjoy your wedding the way you hope to, I'm sure people will understand. And then having a big wedding and a big bash once you're healthy again could be just the thing to help speed your recovery. It will give you something to look forward to. Or, as other people have suggested - have your wedding as planned and then have your big honeymoon once you are better - still giving you something wonderful to look forward to. I would do it. A honeymoon can be taken at anytime, not just immedatly after the wedding. And when you are better you can have a big anneversery party!!! Get married as scheduled. You've sent out the invitations to an October wedding by June? We should all be so organized! ; ) Seriously, though, if you've got everything arranged and you're going to be well enough to do it, go ahead and get married. As for remembering, well, a lot of brides don't have very clear memories of their weddings. That's what a good photographer is for. Hang onto every bright spot you can! Best of luck and best of health to you. Do it....get married so that you can see all your beautiful and hard work but don't forget to have fun!! I don't think there is a simple yes or no answer to this. Perhaps it would be a good idea to make a list of pros and cons to canceling the wedding. That has always helped me in the past. Have you considered just scheduling the honeymoon for a one year anniversary present to yourself and your future husband? Having spent all this money and not being able to get most of it back due to deposits, is it really worth it to cancel just to have a longer wedding? I hate to hear about the surgery, that is a bummer, but you have to do what is best for yourself and your fiance. Personally, I would go through with it if getting married is the priority. If having a wedding is the priority, maybe you should wait. keep the date...and feel better soon! |
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