|
|
| *SoulEyes Photography>>>Wedding Photographer |
Why is my sister-in-law to be getting a free wedding and I am getting nothing??!!? |
My future in laws are paying for their daughter's entire wedding! Their son, my fiancee, is getting nothing! My fiancee and I were engaged first and have not recieved any help. Granted we both have jobs and are managing to pay for the wedding, but they are giving their daughter everything! They have paid for her hall, photographer, dj and supplies. My fiancee and I were told they would pay or our hall...never got the money! Now we are being told they will pay for our rehearsal dinner...how can I trust they will? Why would they pay for a wedding that was planned after we started our planning? What would cause the parents to pay for one and not the other? They like me better then their daughter's fiancee...they do love me! Basically I am wondering if anyone else has ever had this happen? What did you do? Why would they do this? How can I get them to help us out more? Here's my best guess: They wanted to help out you and your fiance. They wanted to give him a great wedding and they probably thought they could, until the sister got engaged. Because they are obligated to pay for her wedding now, they probably can't affored to pay for both. They are going to pay for the rehearsal dinner, I guarentee that because ettiquette says they should and they will. You need to have your fiance talk to his parents and find out the reason behind the broken promise. Again, my best guess is that sister's wedding threw a monkey in their pocket book and they don't know how to tell you they can't afford to take on your wedding too -- your parents should be doing that afterall, and I'm guessing that's what they expect. Tradition dictates that the brides parents pay for the wedding. This is why. Bride's Family pays doofus. theyr'e not your parents, ask your finace that question..he should know them more than you do. And its up to them if they want to spoil your fiance, switch things around.. maybe they don't like your attitude or something.. ask them. Um are you familiar with the American traditions concerning weddings at all? It is tradition for the brides parents to pay for the wedding and the grooms pay for rehersal dinner. I think I read a question posted by your finance that said he thinks it isnt fair that his parents paid for his sisters wedding but your parents arent doing anything It's probably based primarily on the tradition of the parents of the bride footing the bill (or most of it). In lieu of the dowry which used to be part of "giving their daughter away," parents now pay for the wedding. Theoretically, your parents are supposed to pay since you're the bride. Seems to me that whoever wants certain things at the wedding should be the one(s) paying for it. For example, each set of parents should pay for the per plate fee for all of the people they want to invite. Heck - you wanna know what my in-laws gave me for a wedding present? They forgave my husband the debts he incurred from them before we had even met. Gee...thanks mom and dad. Well traditionally the parents of the bride pay for things. So since they have a daughter that they have to flip the bill on I'm sure they are wondering why your paren'ts arent paying for your wedding. |
Photography Categories--Copyright/IP Policy--Contact Webmaster |