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How do I gently remind my maid of honor that this wedding is my special day? |
I don't mean that in a selfish way... it is truly everyones day... but the other day she seemed upset that I didn't want to do my hair in "ringlets" for my big day, and I felt the need to obsessivly appologize to her when I told her I couldn't afford a videographer she recommended. She did suggest a photographer whom is a good friend of hers, so we got a screaming deal, and I am very thankful for so much but there is just one thing that screamed out to me - both the photographer and the videographer seem more interested in shooting my M.O.H's bellydancing sequence than our wedding. Photographer asked about it more than once, and I never really confirmed with my M.O.H. that her belly dancing was something we can accomodate (fiancee thinks she is trying to steal the show so to speak). The sad thing is I think he may be right... she is getting upset when things don't go her way. I just want everyone to be satisfied without too many sacrifices made on my behalf. help. She sounds like quite a character! This is part of who she is, and she's the person you chose to be your MOH so she obviously has some good qualities overall. Just getting a little carried away with this particular day. Don't worry about it. There is NOTHING she can do to steal the show -- it's your wedding day! All that's going to happen is people will talk about what a drama queen your best friend happens to be. What's the worst that can happen? People will talk for years about how the maid of honor belly-danced at your wedding reception? Sounds like a great party! Be gracious and enjoy her, however she contributes to what will inevitably be the great memories and funny stories of your wedding day, and it will be obvious that while she is a Princess or even the Fool, you are undeniably the Queen. Yeah, well belly dancing would just be CUT out and that would be the end of that...... don't let her do it, problem solved. Find another photographer, even if it is a tiny bit more expensive, and lie to her, saying that this one was cheaper and it fit your needs better. Also tell her that you can't have her do the bellydancing because there isn't enough time. You have to find it in yourself to be more assertive. Using words like "we decided, I am going to" instead of "maybe, I think". "We decided to not have any other entertainment at our wedding, including your bellydance. We want to keep the focus on us." At the same time, be sure to thank her for the things she really is helping you with. Just explain to her that I am not trying to hurt your feelings but my feelings are getting hurt by you not remembering that this is my special day. Tell her that you are trying to please everyone but you and your fiancee are the reason for what is going on. Hopefully she will cut it down a couple of notches after that... Good Luck! See if you can get a mutual friend to set her straight. Maybe you have a friend who doesn't like your moh and wouldn't mind telling her the way it is. What's her e-mail? I'll tell her. Unless the belly dancing is part of a religous or ritual at the wedding I woudl definately cut it out...it is appropriate at the bachelor/bachelorette parties or a Jack/Jill shower but not on the wedding day...don't apologize for not wanting your hair a certain way even she does either...just simply say I'm sorry but I have a vision for my wedding and that is what I am sticking to...I would also remind the vendors who's wedding it is and who is paying them!!!! |
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