Wedding 4 months away, not sure i want to get married.. .. ..?

ok, i love him, he loves me, i want to be with him forever, but i just am not into living with him. i get bored, and i feel as if i have it better at MY home, a lot of people have said "grow up" but this is just truly how i feel.!
trust me if i could think differently about it, i would.

sometimes i am just not sure.
i already have the dress, photographer, wedding date and everything set. . i AM going to marry him because i love him,
but how do i get over the dreaded feeling of living with him. we are not fun anymore, and im scared of being even more bored with him. not to mention he is struggling now with money, and im going to suffer because of it with him being stressed and mean to me.
i dont even think i will get a honeymoon.

Is this event costing you a bundle? You may want to scale down then no stress...You have 4 months before you say I do, take that time to figure out if this really something you want, if not you can end this...You may not be ready to get married, think about this, this story hasn't even started and your already making it sound as if the ending is about to happen.

If you love him and he loves you everything will work out ,a honey moon is not everything and a lot of people stress over money when they are planning weddings. The best thing you can do is sit down and talk with him, maybe he is dreading it as much as you .I hope that it all works out but being honest with him is the best thing

I am pleased to see someone on here who doesn't go around with there head in the clouds. You're being realistic and don't let anyone change that. As for getting bored you're really saying you don't want this, as I was once in a similar situation. I wont bore you with the details, but it didn't work. I like you were happy the way things were and I didn't want to be tied to someone who I thought the world of but knew it wouldn't work. So you stick to your guns and who knows some day you might change your mind, but right now this isn't for you.

It really sounds like you should not marry him, if you are bored with the relationship and not looking forward to living with him. He is mean to you when he is stressed? That's not a good sign either. Are you sure you are really in love with him and not just used to him being around?

Don't get married because of a dress, a date or a photographer. You can always marry him later if it was meant to be.

just postpone the wedding you should only marry if you are 100% sure. also money probs causes 90% of marriage breakups

First be sure it's not a game and if you love him and he also the same than no tension

GOOD THAT U R REPENTING BEFORE U GOT MARRIED......... SO U HAVE THE ANSWER IN U R PROBLEM THAT U HAVE SENT..

so say Addious fro the marriage...and begin a new life....

If you're bored, it's not going to get magically "unboring" as soon as you say your vows. If you resent him for not having enough money for a honeymoon, then you're not going to make a quick 180 at any time and decide it's all okey-dokey. And I'm not even going to get started on him being mean to you.

It sounds like you feel like you *have* to marry him for some reason. You don't. If there's a question as to whether you can live with him happily, then you should try moving in together - but my suggestion would be to move into neutral territory. Get a place together that isn't "your place" or "his place". It's way different when you share an "our place" rather than spending time at someone else's home or trying to shoehorn yourself and things into their home and life.

The only person who can decide this is you. Have you spoken to your fiancee? Chances are he is having anxiety issues as well. I have been married for 6 years now, and sure sometimes it is routine and dull, but the majority of the time it is a blast! A honeymoon is soooo not the be all and end all of a wedding. We didn't have one at all due to no money, but that didn't worry us at all! The real question you need to ask yourself is: do you really love him, to live with him and be with him forever, or do you just love the 'wedding'. The wedding isn't the important part (but still an awesome day!), the marriage is the important part. A wedding is only one day, a marriage for life. Hope this helps! Good luck!

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well life isn't always fun, relationships are lots and lots of work and you're promising yourself to him for better or worse. if you are going to be that unhappy then you shouldn't get married, it's not fair to either of you and probably won't end too well. sure you've got a lot into the wedding but what's the sense in paying for all that and then a divorce a few years down the road? but if you want to marry him and this is just cold feet or w/e try to focus on all the great things about him and the relationship. whats more important- you have someone to have fun and goof around with or someone you know loves and cares for you and will always be there for you, someone who you can stand to wake up next to for the rest of your life- someone who you feel the same about. if you would rather have a marriage that is just free and fun.... to each her own, there is nothing wrong with that and if that's what you're meant for you will find it. just think about how the relationship is realistically going to pan out- is it something you can resign to being happy with or do you want something else??? follow your heart, best of luck!