Should I be mad at my Maid of Honor?

First of all, your need to brag about your 2.5 carat really speaks volumes about your attitude. You're a selfish bridezilla and you need to calm the hell down. You're not the only bride in the world. Get over yourself.

Seems to me like she is jealous of what you have. Sounds like one of my friends. Just try to ignore her. If she does keep upsetting you then tell her.

shes jealous of you but be the better person and ignore it...its your wedding..do what you want...you may have to snip at her to knock it off...congrats and good luck..mom of 6

If anything you should share in the joys of getting married. It's not a competition.

She is crazy

No, I don't think you should be upset. Is it annoying, yes! But, pity the girl.

There are a number of reasons why she might be acting this way. Maybe she really is getting engaged and maybe this is a mutual decision between her and her boyfriend.

If not, then she just wants attention. If that's the case, stop hanging out with her. No one says you HAVE to tell her everything about your wedding or take her dress shopping, cake tasting, etc.

Try avoiding contact with her for a while. Don't share your wedding plans. But, don't be upset. No reason to be. Unless you feel she's stealing your thunder, which is really selfish, you shouldn't feel that way towards your MOH.

When she talks about her "wedding" entertain the idea, but leave it at that. STOP sharing every detail about your wedding with her and maybe she'll get bored of planning her non-existent wedding date.

She is most definitely competing with you and you're not crazy for being mad about it. Up until the day you get married, she is going to drive you nuts. What I would do to minimize her bridezilla-green eyed monster act is to stop talking to her about your wedding plans. Yes she is your MOH but she's behaving selfishly and rude at the moment. As long as she picks up her bridesmaid gown and knows when to be present on the wedding day -- that is all she needs to know.

Spend as much time as you can meeting with vendors and planning out the wedding details with your fiance or with other close friends/family members who are not irritating. Even after having all your plans set, don't tell her about it. When she questions why you're so distant (and believe me she will because she wants her wedding to be better than yours) just let her know that you're not sure she's the best person to be your MOH as she is so focused on her own wedding. Talk about how stressed out you are blah blah but don't give her any more details. She can be surprised just like the rest of your guests on your wedding day.

Let her do what she wants, you shouldn't let this stress you out. Sure she is probably trying to steal your thunder, but in my experience people who plan their wedding before they are engaged rarely have things turn out the way they expected.

So you just enjoy planning your wedding and getting ready for your wedding, and if every time you tell her something she tries to one up you, stop dharing your plans with her.

Once you are both married, things will go back to normal. (Or once you are married and she is crying on your should she will realize how stupid she has been!)

Good luck!

I understand being a bit miffed about this. It seems like she wants to rob you of your thunder.

Years ago, a girlfriend got engaged a while after I did. She planned her wedding for earlier than mine. It was the same kind of thing. Everything we were doing was pooh-poohed but everything she was doing was brilliant.

My fiance and I bought a house that we were renting out until we got married. But, noooo, that wasn't as exciting as THEIR news. We had to drop everything one Friday evening to see their exciting new acquisition. You guessed it - a vacuum cleaner.

I tell you this just to illustrate that some people seem to need to 'win' all the time. The best thing you can do is keep in mind that this is not a competition. Keep making your plans how you want them and find another friend to share your excitement with. A friend who will let you keep the spotlight.

Yeah, I totally agree with the feeling that she's stealing your thunder. I would talk to her about it. If you guys are that good of friends, I would think that she would want to know that you're irritated with her. AND if you guys can come to terms with what's going on in each of your relationships...how cool would it be to help each other plan your weddings. I would have loved to do that with my BF, but she got married a few years back. Now its my turn to shine!

Congrats anyway (sounds like the rock is awesome!!) and don't let her ruin your euphoria.

I think what you're no doubt feeling is just plain frustrated. It's like everything you mention, she just chimes in on her "occasion" instead of consentrating on you & yours. Maybe if you want, you could say at some point that you need to just consentrate on what you HAVE to do NOW, & at times it's getting you confused w/the "mine" & "yours". Let her know you'll be w/her & be supportive for her wedding "when the time comes" as you'd like her to do w/you & yours. Kinda like "first things first" type thing. That just might be an idea for you, & maybe she'll realize right NOW it's YOU you're dealing with & she can take notes of what needs to be done when her time comes. Depending on the type person she is, that might work for you. Hey, at least it would be a try anyway. I do wish you ALL the BEST however, & congratulations. I'm sure everything w/turn out fine...:)