How do I cope with waiting to get engaged!??

The engagement is coming...he has dropped many hints and we have been to many jewelry stores and he even spoke with my parents. I am not worried about whether or not he is going to propose, because I know he is within the next month or two...I am trying to figure out ways to keep myself from obsessing about it!! I come home after work or school and I think about it, even though I am trying SO hard to keep myself preoccupied. It is driving me crazy! I have been looking at all kinds of wedding stuff, such as tips and color options, photographers, etc...and it makes me feel crazy because I'm not even engaged yet, hah. It seems like no matter how hard I try to keep myself from reading about these things, I can't help it b/c I'm SO excited about being with the man of my dreams. If he stopped hinting at stuff and stopped knowingly making me think about it, maybe I could stop thinking about it for 5 mins! To all you ladies out there who have lived through the notorious wait, how did you cope?

I know how you feel. I am getting married this August and I got engaged December 2008 2 days before Christmas. In November, we picked out and bought my engagement ring, and then my fiance hid it in our condo somewhere until Christmas. I didn't know when he was going to propose and it drove me crazy, especially knowing the ring was somewhere around here. I thought about when and how my fiance would propose, but I knew that he would choose the perfect time for him.

I never looked for the ring, although I though about it,.but trust me, its worth the wait. When the time is right your boyfriend will propose to you so relax and don't worry about it. It will all be worth it in the end because you will be happy to know your boyfriend chose the perfect time.

Good luck and like the other girls said, you could look at magazines or sites online to find out what dress and flowers, etc. you would like because time flies by so fast after you do get engaged! :)

I know exactly what you mean, I'm in the same boat. I know he will be doing it very soon and I can't so thinking about how he will do it, will he get a ring that I like, etc. But like others have said, I'm just trying to keep my mind off that. Also getting things planned for the actual wedding. Maybe start to think about the location, ceremony and dress will help you stop thinking about the proposal. I have been looking at websites and saving pictures I like, and just thinking ahead. Maybe this would help you too.

I was in the similar situation and for me, I just decided to enjoy it. I absolutely loved knowing it was coming, but not knowing when. It made it kind of exciting knowing that the proposal might be just around the corner. I'd ask jokingly, not really wanting to know anything and he never gave any hints. When he did propose, it was so wonderful and perfect and romantic I wouldn't change anything about it, including the wait. It was an exciting and a different period of our relationship.

Keep yourself busy. Start exercising or something to take your mind off of it. Take up a hobby like scrapbooking or painting. And stop planning your wedding before it happens! You're only making yourself more anxious. The time will come, trust me!

EDIT: I never went through the waiting phase with my husband because we got married in vegas on my last night visiting him. He lives there, I don't. We weren't engaged or anything, but we decided to do it! I will NEVER regret that decision.

I've never been proposed to or almost proposed but i think a way to stop thinking about him is to think of the future.Think of how happy u will be and how much u love. U might also want to visit an old friend from college or high school to help keep ur mind off things.

It's called maturity. Stop looking at anything regarding weddings til it's official. Otherwise you come off as all teenage drama....

Just live your life as normal, geez. What if he doesn't in the next few months? Just be happy with your man and when it happens be happy and excited. Stop obsessing.

think about other things like family and friends. Go to movies with your friends and family and eventually he will propose when you don't expect it that very minute!

Well it should be a suprise maybe tell him you dont wanna get married then maybe he wont

From a bride who gets married in 50 days, I want you to know that I was waiting too and it took the "surprise" matter of the proposal. We talked about it, looked at rings and I even told him jokenly 3 years prior that we better be married by August of 2008,...that I am not going to wait around 4 to 5 years to make up his mind. I wasn't rushing him but I was NOT going to be with someone who wouldn't commit. Soo...here we are 3 years later, getting married August 31st. I thought about it alll the time, believe me I did. But let him Propose to you when he is ready. Don't rush him.

My husband was the same way. We had been together for about 6 years, and he took me to pick my ring. (He wanted to make sure that I would wear it, since I do not wear any jewelry.) So I even knew when it was ready for pick up, and that he had it in his possession. I just kept working, and going on like I had been, before the ring shopping. If we went to dinner I would think, please don't do it here, I want it more private. Well, the reason that he kept going was that he was trying to figure out a way to pop the question. So as hard as it is for you to wait, it is probably just as hard for him trying to figure out how to do it. I am sure he wants it to be special, and not be disappointing to you. When all was said and done, he proposed perfectly..........and did it when I wasn't even expecting it in the slightest!!! That was December 11, 2003.........a day I will never forget!

OMG!!! i thought i was the only one..yes i am in the same situation as u..he should be asking me to be his wife any time now and i already prepaired EVERYTHING such as down deposit for photographer..videographer..ballroom..ca... and etc..and the funny thing is he suggested to do all of that so when we r actually engage we dont have to worry about those things..EVERYSINGLE DAY i day dream and obsess about him proposing,,my sister and my best friend think i am in lala land!!! my family members think i am nut!!! and he just keep teasing me asking me would u marry me(jokingly) just go out with friends and worry about ur school works to get ur mind off of it