Groom's attitude getting worse by the day towards the wedding?

I have got a total groomzilla on my hands here, and it's getting to the point I don't even want to go through with the ceremony. He's refusing to help with any of the choices on anything, and making a point of critizing everything I do decide on.

We're having just about the world's smallest wedding.. LOL. There are going to be a total of 10 people involved if you count the JP and the photographer, and I have been really good about not spending hardly any money on this.

I got a damaged dress cheap, a clearance dress for my flower girl, no bridesmaids, no ushers, no catering, I made my invites, a FREE venue for the ceremony, and just a friend doing the photos.... he's still complaining about how much it's costing. And he knows how badly I want to do this, I have for a long time.

What the hell am I supposed to do here, I'm just heartbroken with his attitude, we've been together for 6 years with 2 kids..
It's just about to break us up for good.

ask him if he really wants to get married, but be prepared for an honest answer. divorce will cost more than the wedding - particularly emotionally. i commend you for wanting to be married to the father of your children, but think long run of how your relationship might affect your children. good luck.

ps - im sure you are worthy of someone who would love to be marrying you.

Just don't forget you're as good as married as far as the law goes so make sure you get you're half if you walk. Report Abuse

umm i think that you know this person better than any one else. you are together for 6 years now. with 2 kids.i think that what's he doing is auwfull as he has nothing to do with this wedding. it's his responssibility to share this important event with u,otherwise u should have to talk with him seriously. it's something forever ,he can't just watch and blame for nothing

It aint gonna get better after the wedding, dearie...

Think about it, you'll be married to one you're starting to hate.
If there's no mutual compromise, what's the use.

You need to sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how his attitude is making you feel. Maybe he doesn't even realize what he's doing! A lot of times when someone is miserable they push the people closest to them away without even realizing it. Have a long talk with him, be an adult if it starts going into shouting or name-calling and just back off and try again when he cools off. If you're to marry this guy he has to understand that it's not all about him, he has to think about your feelings too. It sounds like you've got the compromise part of marriage down flat and he doesn't, talk to him.